(Closed) What did you do to 'remember' your miscarried babies?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hey Hun, I’m so sorry you had to go through this! I can’t even imagine how difficult this is.

My oldest sister had 3 miscarriages. To remember them, she got a ring birthstones with each of their birthstones. I love that idea. It’s something simple that you can see everyday and is close to you. I love the idea of turning unhappy memories into happy ones! Your engraving sounds perfect!

*hugs*

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

When I lost my baby I brought a pandora charm( baby pram) which I can wear everyday. 

I was really shocked at how long it took me to heal.  It takes time and each day get easier until one day you can think about it and not cry.  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@Mischka:  hugs to you 

people do ask me now and I can easily talk about it. That time will come! 

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I made a mini scrapbook. They gave me this beautiful card at the hospital when I had my d & c. Helped me get through a lot of my feelings. So sorry for your loss. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@Mischka:  when this time comes you will become great comfort to someone going through the same pain. This awful experience will only make you a stronger person:)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Mischka:  I’m so sorry for your loss. I know your pain as I lost my first baby last year. After my D&C, I purchased a Pandora charm and wear it every day as a reminder. But I didn’t get a pram or anything baby related. I got a giftbox. Because that baby was a present that I never got to unwrap but one I know will be waiting for me when the time comes for us to finally meet. Try to have a positive outlook if possible. I know it’s hard but the time will come where you will heal enough to think of your beautiful angel babies and smile. Thankful that you were blessed to be their mummy, if only for a very brief while. I wish you nothing but the best, health and happiness. I have been blessed with another baby and am currently 22 weeks pregnant. Please don’t give up hope. xx

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve had 6.  I’ve done several things to remember them.  I made a necklace for the first couple, lit candles on Oct 15 (miscarriage awareness/remembrance day), and have named and talk to my babies.  My kids are (in order) Angie Joy, Dustin Matthew, Abbigail May, David Emory, Rory David, and Josie Lauren.  I never got to see a picture of them, never heard any of their heartbeats, but something prodded me to the names I chose and the genders I assigned.  I’ve saved all the photos of the positive tests and plan to make a picture album of the long journey as well as a memory book for what I do have of my little ones.  

I talk about my miscarriages and journey to anyone I can to raise awareness for the frustration and grief of miscarriage – and of course to let people know just how very common it is.  In doing so, my grief over my last loss has resulted in the continued life of a baby that was due to be aborted.  

Anyway, here are the necklaces I’ve done:

 

And I know my babies are watching over me.  I was blessed to be up and out taking pictures of the sunrise when my Angie sent me a sign:

There had been almost no clouds just a few minutes before, and then suddenly there was this huge A in the sky!  I know instantly that my Angie was sending me hugs on what should have been her due date.

 

@Mischka:  I love your idea!  I definitely think you should go for it.  I’m so sorry for your losses.  It’s so hard.  I know for me, just when I think I’m turning a corner, I hit a wave of grief.  My husband’s been amazing through all of this Thank God!  I try hard to see the positives out of all of this as well.  It’s one of the major things that helps me to cope and smile.  I hope and pray that you can find that kernel of positivity and keep it going.  *hugs*

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am sorry for your loss, and my heart goes out to you.

 

Your ring idea sounds absolutely perfect. It is personal, and such a happy memory to help you heal with. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

After my second miscarriage, my mom bought me a tiny little fern which at the time seemed kind of random since I’m not really a plant person lol. Anyways, it turned out to be a great gift. It gave me something to take care of and to watch as it grew since I no longer had the opportunity to do that with my baby. It sits on our table and I often look at it and am reminded of the babies we lost. It also gives me hope for new life and a successful pregnancy in the future (I actually found out yesterday that I’m pregnant again – keeping hope alive is important!).

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@As_You_Wish:  I really like this idea (and congrats on your recent BFP!).

@Mischka:  I had a MC back in December and it still gets to me every now and then. I haven’t really done much in terms of placing significance on remembering, but you’ve gotten some great advice in this thread. As a PP stated, you will be exactly what another person who suffers a loss needs at some point and I think supporting those who are hurting is a wonderful way to remember your angel babies.

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