Post # 1
I was recently laid off by my job. This is not a huge deal because I needed to switch jobs anyway b/c me and SO will be moving out of our city. But I will be unemployed for 4 months possibly. SO and I will travel a bit, but I am just concerned about getting bored when I’m home. Also, I’ve heard some couples say that unemployment has been a damper on the relationship and I just don’t want that to happen to us.
Any advice on how to tackle this?
Post # 3
I’ve always done both or work full time but if I were unemloyed I would find a place to volunteer. It’ll get you out of the house and I loved it!
Post # 4
@nyebride:Thanks. Volunteering sounds like a great idea!
Post # 5
I’ve been unemployed since October. I keep a blog, work on a book manuscript, volunteer at the library and Project Gutenberg, work on wedding projects, direct/play in the choir and bell choir at church, participate in a writing group, babysit my nephew (yay), apply for jobs, and read a lot of books. Heh. I’m trying to look at this down time as a chance to devote myself to personal endeavours. Sort of a pre-career retirement, haha. 😛
Personally I haven’t found it to put a damper on my relationships (or attitude). It’s really only a damper on finances. In all honesty, I’m happier than I was when I was employed! It’s just a matter of finding the right job that makes me as happy as my hobbies. Don’t let unemployment get you down, it can be a great opportunity!
Post # 6
@Minutiae:OMG! I really appreciate your response. It seriously brought my spirits up. Thanks!
Post # 7
As long as you can afford to be unemployed you should be ok. Keep yourself busy, get ready to move across country, maybe look at finding a job over there already, working on the CV and sending it to some prospective employers – it’s a tough job climate out there 🙂
Or you could find a casual temping job in the meantime?
Post # 8
I graduated from my masters program about 6 months ago. I have no intention of getting a job either (as I’ve posted about before) but I spend 4-5 days a week volunteering at the hospital doing the same thing I’d be doing if I was getting paid. I’m never board. In addition to volunteering FH goes on business trips a lot and I get to travel with him. I also have a lot of activities I’m involved with that keep me busy, plus I do Yoga and take ballet.
Post # 9
@happyb: No kidding I was about two shakes away from writing this exact post. For the first time in my life I’m unemployed, as I got laid off and finished a masters degree in October.
So you got a stay at home buddy here girl, so far I’m applying all over. I was interested in taking some french classes maybe. My back up plan is to apply for a certificate or diploma in something marketable. If I’m home might as well do something productive.
Goodluck and I hope you have no problems keeping your spirits up. I have to remind myself not to let this interfere with my relationship.
Post # 10
Definitely find a hobby or volunteer! For us, it really lessened the hassle of DH being unemployed when he actually ran the errands, made dinner, and kept the house clean. Otherwise i felt like he did nothing all day, left it for me, and that stressed me out! Turns out hunting for a job online took up at least a solid chunk of his day–which was kind of a downer.
I had a friend who was unemployed for a bit and she trained for a marathon and volunteered at Habitat for Humanity
Post # 11
I am going NUTS! Haha. No, but seriously, I kept somewhat busy with cooking, cleaning, and running errands for my sick grandmother. I would love to volunteer somewhere as well. I think it’s a wonderful idea. I wanted to pick up a hobby, but I don’t have the money to spend on investing into a hobby. So I go to the library and tackle some reading. Hope you find something to keep you busy!
Post # 12
When I was off work I substituted part time. It gave me something to do and I loved the flexibility of it. Plus it was a little extra money. I LOVE to read so I read a ton of books while I wasn’t working! I also probably shopped more than I should have 😛
Post # 13
Thank you so much for your suggestions! I’m begining to geel A LOT better.:)
@picturemeurs: I was also thinking of taking a French class. LOL.
Post # 14
I make stuff to sell on Etsy in my spare time… Etsy is a huuuuge time waster for me when I’m busy too, there’s all kinds of awesome stuff on there!
Post # 15
These are all really great ideas – I graduated in June and have been mostly unemployed since. I have a small part time position, but I definitely know what its like to get bored, and definitely what it is like for the stress to mirror in my relationship.
I may be in a bit of a different position though, because FI is a student, and therefore we have NO income coming into our household, so the stress also includes having to go back to my parents looking for help supporting myself. Which is no fun!