Post # 1
I’m keen to know what Bees have already done / are planning to do when it comes to gifting / tipping your vendors.
I think, in the UK, tipping and gift giving is much less done than in the US so I feel a little bit lost when it comes to what to do with our vendors. For example, the women coming to do our hair and make up on the day…I’m paying them quite alot but would it be right to give them a small gift too?…I was thinking just a £10 voucher for somewhere generic and a bottle of wine each and giving the day of co-ordinator something as well….but he’s a man and I’ve no clue what to get him. Any ideas?
Also, there are a bunch of waitresses / helpers at the venue who will be working a long day for our wedding and I’d like to give them all something….what would be something I could give to them either as a group or a small thing for each individual….?
Any ideas? What did you do?
Fi thinks we don’t owe anyone anything but is he just being a scrooge or are you not supposed to gift vendors???
Post # 3
I’m going to add a poll to see if I can draw people in…..lol
Post # 4
i’m not really sure of the etiquette on this, but for us, we are giving a cash tip to the band, our gratuities are included in our venue price for the staff so we are leaving it at that, unless they give absolutely amazing service, we may tip on top of that. Our photographer, not sure yet, i’m sure we’ll get him something – like a gift certificate, because he’s been really really awesome so far. We will definately give our coordinator something.
I really believe if someone does an outstanding service, why not show your gratitude in some small way? it can’t do any harm.
basically i thinkk it’s your call on what you want to do. Some people don’t like to do stuff like that…. i don’t know why
Post # 5
@RockStar33: Thank you. I think i’ll give everyone something. It’s just handing someone a little cash seems really weird to me so I feel I should give them a gift. Deciding what is really difficult!
Post # 6
I tipped most of my vendors because frankly I don’t know them well enough to buy an actual gift that wouldn’t go to waste. That being said I did give my wedding planner a spa basket (along with a generous tip) tha was filled with all sorts of things to aide in relaxation after my wedding. 😉
Post # 7
@Treejewel19: Do you mind me asking if you give them a cheque? How did they react to it? I think it’s not the cultural norm here so I think that’s why I’m no sure about / how to tip….I realise that sounds a bit ridiculous but take me out of the restaurant situation and I don’t know how to do it tactfully!
Post # 8
I voted no because that’s the case for most of our vendors. Gratuity is built into our venue bill (they’re handling our food/set up for ceremony/etc.) so I’m not giving them anymore money, lol. They made sure they got their tip which makes sense.
Don’t plan to tip our photographer either because I think it’s silly to tip someone when you have no clue how the pictures will turn out. Also, not really sure if we’ll be tipping the DJ or florist. Maybe the florist because they’re open to delivering on a Sunday when they’re not open. I think I’d be more inclined to tip them if everything showed up nice and such…since I feel like they’d be going above and beyond.
We will probably tip our officiant and ceremony musician. Not sure what the etiquette is on any of it. I mean, my personal opinion is that everything wedding related costs so much money already…and people wouldn’t come if you weren’t already making it worth their time? Sounds mean, but that’s how I feel. I think we will only be tipping when someone goes above and beyond.
Post # 9
Hell no – they cost enough and I see no reason to tip.