@Bri1o: Hubby and I have only been dating for 1 year and 8 months. Got engaged after 8 months, married since june 2013.
For me, this was the only thing that made me wish we woulda waited. But Hubby didnt want to wait longer because for him kids is what makes life worth living. He always said he wished he would have met me earlier so we could have had kids already at age 24 lol He is now 28 and Im 27.
Anyway, Im now in my 10th week of pregnancy and we thought it would take a while to get pregnant, for several reasons. But it worked after 3 months of trying. So I have to say I was very much shocked. for. weeks. I actually just started feeling all the way positive about my pregnancy about 2 weeks ago.And the funny thing is, 6 months ago I had super crazy baby fever!!! And still I was shocked when it happened after officially trying lol
My hubby is an athlete, so we already own 5 apartments (1-2 Bedrooms each, so nothing crazy, but we rented them out and one day will probably live from it when his career is over) in two countries (his home country and mine where we met while he lived there). But we dont own our “final” house yet, because we will still be moving a lot due to his job. Also Im hoping we will end up in my home country one day, even though I agreed to live in his home country for good. As long as his career is going strong, we wont know for sure where we will end up.
We are financially stable. Im currently not working because I dont speak the language of the country Im currently living in and also I wouldnt get a work permission.
But I have to say that Im lucky Im currently not working, because of my pregnancy. I have so much respect for pregnant women that still go to work everyday. I just feel super miserable sometimes and barely get out of bed.
I always told my hubby (even on our first date lol) that I would want to be in a financial stable situation before I get pregnant, so I wouldnt have to work while pregnant and a few years after. I wouldnt want to miss out on my kids growing up. I have lived in the states for a while and always felt sorry that Mommies have to go back to work 3 months after giving birth, unless the hubby earns enough for the family.
Again, I have soooo much respect for pregnant women that are still going to work everyday!!! But Im glad I am able to stay home. At least for the first trimester.
People always tell me there is no perfect time to start a family. In my opinion, being financially secure as much as that is possible, would make things a lot easier, because it takes away a lot of pressure. Of course nobody has to be rich to start a family, but I would want to be secure, meaning having food on the table without struggling and being able to pay rent and such things.