Post # 1
I am just wondering how many brides out there had to settle on 1 or more aspects of their wedding…
My fiancé and I agreed on a 5000$ wedding budget and a 2500$ honeymoon budget not including our attire and the food. We want to buy a house within our first year of marriage. I am very lucky to say that my mother will be covering hors d’oeuvres, food and wine for each table. Also, my dad helped me immensely with my dress.
So far I’ve had to cut out a videographer, I can’t get the flowers/centerpieces I originally invisionned, no limo/transportation… Flower girl dresses will be whatever their moms decide to dress them with and same with the best man attire, it will be what he can afford (I might request a specific color if possible)…
My sister is an amazing baker and she will be making our cake. She is also an amazing seamstress and would like to make her own dress so that she will want to wear it again. We have limited our guest list to 50 people so that we can afford a decent wedding… Which we are both fine with; having a bigger wedding would just be more stressful for us.
There will be a lot of DIY I think.
On one side, I agree with my SO because I too want a house ASAP. But another side of me wishes we had an extra few thousand to spend on the wedding (that extra few thousand is for the honeymoon).
I am so stressed at times about the planning because i don’t want to have any regrets or wish my wedding would have been ”better”. Another part of me knows it will be amazing no matter what, but I keep going back and forth between these two states of mind… Anyone feel me on this?
Post # 3
we have a fairly large budget…but we’re hosting about 25 guests at the Inn where our wedding is so that’s eating up a lot of it.
From the get go we decided to do as much DIY as was tolerable and manageable. We have no fresh flowers at this point, all silk DIY’d, all decor DIY’d, all stationary DIY’d.
So what we are forgoing as of now, hopefully this changes, videographer, full open bar, renting out the massage space for the full day so no outsiders can use it, and I think that’s it 🙂
Post # 4
I am making the cake and the invites by myself, and the bridesmaids are helping with DIY flowers. I am cutting the majority of flowers from our yards. We are also forgoing a DJ, and having iPod music emcee’d by a few of my comedian friends. We didn’t get to do a plated dinner and are opting for a cheaper buffet option. I am having my dress and veil made in China for a fraction of the cost of a dress from a salon here. No transportation, only our personal vehicles. We may borrow my FI’s dad’s sportscar for the get-away to the wedding night hotel. 🙂 Additionally, our family and friends are helping with all the wedding favors. We may only spend on the packaging for those. Also, we got awesome deals our on honeymoon so airfare and almost all our hotels are free.
Things I am not saving on: Our photographer, our rings (wearing them for LIFE, they’d better be good!), hair and makeup (i’m useless at both), and our venue. I think I am still getting a very fair price on all of these things, however. 🙂 Especially for our guest list of 210+ people. Cutting the guest list was the last way I wanted to save.
Post # 5
The biggest things we had to settle on was the guest list. We cut it down to include only the nearest and dearest. We also decided to cut out the videographer and transportation. Making these small sacrifices allowed us to afford other things (like our perfect venue/caterer) more easily.
Post # 6
well, since I started planning, we’ve increased the budget to afford the things we wanted that we initially cut out like a DJ, transportation, hair and makeup, a better caterer, etc. The one thing we have not added is a videographer. I don’t think we need a professional since fi sort of is. We just need a reliable person to film and fi will edit and work his magic.
I am penny pinching and trying to stay under $5000 and fi is trying to increase our budget by the day by adding more people, adding more vendors, etc. It’s crazy. I don’t want to spend more than what I budgeted for because 1) we don’t have it and 2) it’s unnecesary to spend so much money on one day. Yes we want a blow-out amazing wedding and party, but I am not going to fret about money to do so.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
We cut down on the guest list, mostly for the sake of our venue’s capacity, but it has helped a ton in our budget. Aside from that, lots and lots of DIY.
Post # 8
We had orignally wanted a band but went with a DJ for financial reasons.
We had also planned to book some limos to take the bridal party between the hotel and the venue and back, but dropped those; the bridal party took taxis to the venue and went on the shuttle we’d hired for the guests to get back to the hotel (that saved over $1500 right there).
We went with single-layer table linens instead of adding an overlay layer (saved $400 or so on linen rentals and nobody even noticed a thing).
We did a rehearsal lunch instead of a rehearsal dinner, and only invited the wedding party instead of all the out-of-towners; we took advantage of the hotel’s free nightly happy hour as a time to mingle with the out-of-towners.
We also cut WAY back on our personal travel budget over the 14 months that we were engaged; he and I both telecommute and we’d gotten used to nipping out of town anytime we saw a good airfare, or a music festival, or really anytime we got bored. But even with good airfare, a weekend getaway turns into $1k before you know it. So we have been grounded this year. Now that the wedding is done and over, and paid off, we’re going to start traveling again (yay). But to me, this lifestyle change was far more painful than any other budget-related decision.
Post # 9
Before you started planning, had you invisionned something more that what your budget allows? Does anyone feel a bit disapointed? I mean, you only get one wedding day right?
Post # 10
No limos, less people, lots of DIY, buffet instead of sit down, no favors etc. I’m a baker so I’m making the desserts and a very good friend of mine is going to make my cake as to not stress me as much the week before lol. We are discussing having an Ipod reception instead of a DJ!
Post # 11
First good thing about your wedding is that you have plenty of more time to save and plan! And second is that you limited your guest number, that makes a dramatic difference!!
We are sacraficing : no videographer 🙁 , smaller groomsmen cake made by a friend, no photo booth, had to find really cheap BM dresses and searched hours for their cheaper shoes, limiting alcohol at the rehearsal dinner, smaller honeymoon than we originally wanted. WE are staying within the U.S. and only one week vacation taken one month after wedding so we can save more. I spent very little on wedding jewelry. No save the dates, no calligraphy ( I did it my self), no engagement pictures, no flowers at the reception. And probably no big gifts to each other.
BUT, we are getting so much that all of these things do not matter to us. We are able to have 300 guests at our wedding, found a beautiful victorian mansion with an all inclusive package including food, open bar and cake and DJ (this is the way to go! ), we have an amazing photographer, we have all the people we really love and care about at our wedding. And our honeymoon is something special to us. We are going to Napa Valley for good food and winery visits since my FI is a chef, he really appreciates this. My aunt offered to do some beautiful invitations for me that I loved! My wedding dress is AMAZING!
So the point was to say that you cant have everything, but that just makes you appreciate what you do have even more!!!
Post # 12
Getting real touch instead of actual flowers, and also skimping a bit on the ceremony decor. I figure our setting will be so beautiful that I don’t need much anyways! I was trying to cut on the reception decor by doing a lot of DIY, but the set up costs on the resort were pretty prohibitive
Post # 13
@O.My.Heart: to the second question, I envisioned having all those first things I listed that we are sacraficing. And then I realized that we would spend like 10k more on all that stuff. And its just extras. We are making our wedding beautiful for US. It is perfect for us and that is what really matters. It is just one day. I suggest getting a good photographer to capture special pictures but you really dont need every detail. Dont let the wedding industry overwhelm you. You want to be comfortable after the wedding and not financially stressed. Trust me on that. And good luck. We are spending a couple thousand more than we orginally planned because its our special day. But we are not going crazy and thats important!
Post # 14
We’re having a seated dinner as opposed to family style or food stations. Both were more expensive then going with a seted dinner.
Theres always sacrifices unfortunately. But if there’s something you really want it doesn’t hurt to ask and meet with the vendor – they’re usually willing to work within your budget
Post # 15
Thank you all for the feedback!
I guess a lot of what I am feeling is the pressure of making every decision while trying to stay within the budget… My fiancé is happy just staying on the side lines. Part of me liked that at the beginning, so I can have full control ;-P. But now I see I won’t even get everything I want anyways due to the budget and I feel that it would be nice to have him interested in making these hard decisions. I feel the pressure ladies! I swear, planning a wedding on a budget is like a full-time job… You have to research everything and every price!
Post # 16
@O.My.Heart: Wow! So awesome just about everyone is helping you with the wedding!
We had to say no to: videographer(But our photographer has an intern, so she will be doing ours! woo) longer stay at Disney, beter venue, real flowers, a veil that wasnt DIY’d I did a pretty good job, but couldnt get my dream veil (It was $400, I couldnt see spending that on tulle and rhinestones!) rehersal dinner, more candy for the buffet, actual favors instead of just candy, backdrop for behind the head table.