What did you HAVE TO vow? Please Share Your Vows?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I’ll share! Our wedding was last weekend 🙂

We spent some time looking through vows on the internet, and basically picked out bits and pieces we liked and wanted to build our marriage around. Each line was specifically chosen because we felt a real need to include it. Here they are:

(Name), Your love has made me feel more complete and more alive.<br />You give me the courage I need to be myself.<br />You continually make me into a better person. <br />You are my confidant, my best friend, the one I want to always be with.<br />With you, I am happy.

<br /> That’s why today, in front of you, our friends, and our family<br /> I, (name), take you (name) to be my wife.

I promise to always be honest and faithful. To give you the respect, trust and attention you need to become the best you can be.<br />I promise to support you, comfort you, and never let you face problems alone.<br />I promise to keep myself open to you, to listen to your hopes, thoughts and dreams and share my own with you as we move through life together.<br />I promise to fully appreciate your presence in my life, and let you help me to be an ever-better person.<br />I promise to encourage and inspire you, and to make sure there is always laughter in our lives.<br /><br />I look forward to growing together, getting to know the woman you will become and falling in love a little more every day.

I offer you this ring as a symbol of my love, support and loyalty. Wear it and think of me and know that I love you, always.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hi justjade. This is a bit long because I have what the registrar said and then us repeating. So most of it is there twice. Obvs I replaced the names with titles, lol.

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REGISTRAR: I do solemnly require and call upon you both, to now make a verbal declaration, in the presence of your witnesses, to re-affirm that there still is no impediment of kindred or alliance, or lawful hindrance to your marriage today.

Repeat after me.

I do solemnly and sincerely declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, (Groom) may not be joined in matrimony to (Bride).

GROOM: I do solemnly and sincerely declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, (Groom) may not be joined in matrimony to (Bride).

<br /> REGISTRAR: Do you understand the declarations you have now made?

GROOM: I do

REGISTRAR: Have you made them of your own free will and without duress?

GROOM: I have

REGISTRAR: Repeat after me.

I do solemnly and sincerely declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, (Bride) may not be joined in matrimony to (Groom).              

BRIDE: I do solemnly and sincerely declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, (Bride) may not be joined in matrimony to (Groom).       

<br /> REGISTRAR: Do you understand the declarations you have now made?

BRIDE: I do

REGISTRAR: Have you made them of your own free will and without duress?

BRIDE: I have

REGISTRAR: (Groom), will you have this woman to be your wedded wife? Will you love her and comfort her in sickness and in health?

GROOM: I will

REGISTRAR: (Bride) will you have this man to be your wedded husband? Will you love him and comfort him in sickness and in health?

BRIDE: I will

REGISTRAR: Repeat after me. I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, (Groom), do take you, (Bride), to be my lawful wedded wife.

GROOM: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, (Groom), do take you, (Bride), to be my lawful wedded wife.<br /> <br /> REGISTRAR: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, (Bride), do take you, (Groom), to be my lawful wedded husband.

BRIDE: I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, (Bride), do take you, (Groom), to be my lawful wedded husband.

Ring Ceremony

REGISTRAR: Repeat after me. (Bride), I give you this ring as a token that I will love, honour and respect you all the days of our lives.

GROOM: (Bride), I give you this ring as a token that I will love, honour and respect you all the days of our lives.

REGISTRAR: Repeat after me. (Groom) I give you this ring as a token that I will love, honour and respect you all the days of our lives.

BRIDE: (Groom) I give you this ring as a token that I will love, honour and respect you all the days of our lives.

<br /> By virtue of the authority vested in me by …

As (Groom) and (Bride) have solemnly bound themselves in wedlock before these witnesses, (BM) and (MOH).

I now pronounce them husband and wife.

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Even with all the repitition (Groom) fluffed a line! When the registrar asked him to repeat “to be my lawfully” he said “to be my love”! I thought it was cute and I teased him about it later but he didn’t like it so I stopped. He also put my ring on upside down! I’m sure with a lot of wedding rings you wouldn’t be able to tell if it was upside down but my ring has a V curve and he had it pointing up (towards my fingernail) rather than down (towards my knuckle). It didn’t matter of course, in the car I just put it back on the right way and the e-ring on top.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

My 1st daughter to marry did traditional vows. She wrote something, herself, but he didn’t want to.

My 2nd read a 1-page, statement to her groom and he responded with something he made-up, on  the spot (he’s a part-time performer, so can do things like that). They were hearfelt, emotional, and meaningful.

I wrote our ceremony – 37 years ago, or rather cut and pasted from a ceremony writing book. We each made short statements and then recited part of some verses, from the Old Testamant Song of Solomon, together.

Different states or countries may have different basic requirements, to what is said, at a ceremony.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

we are legally married already so there isn’t anything we HAVE to include in our creremony.  What is important to us is to focus on our shared importance on family.  

When we vow to take the other person as our husband/wife we are also vowing to take them as the mother/father of our children.  We are also including language about loving and honoring the other person’s family as our own. When we do the ‘I Do’ bits we are also asking our guests if they give their blessing and promise to support us in our marriage.  We both come from different cultural and religious backgrounds but our common ground is the importance of family so that is what we’re keeping at the heart of our ceremony. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 justjade:  commenting to follow i’m in beginning stages of VOW writing.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our friend became ordained just to officiate our wedding, so it was definitely a learning experience for all of us when it came time to write out a ceremony script!  DH and I wrote our own vows but we also included the traditional bit of saying “I do”.

For my vows, I wanted to keep it on the shorter side since I wasn’t trying to make it into a speech, so I didn’t include story of how we met or anything like that.  DH decided to include a short story of the moment he knew he wanted to marry me, but he also kept it to the point.

Here were my vows:

Today, with my heart full of love and joy, I take your hand and commit myself to you as your wife. From the moment we first met, I knew you were something special and little did I know that you would be everything I could have ever hoped for in a husband, and I can’t imagine any part of my life without you. At this moment, it is the happiest day of my life, but the truth is that this will only be one of the happiest days that we will share together.  Life will take us on many journeys and there isn’t anyone I would rather have by my side.  I promise to support your dreams, share your joy when you are happy, make you laugh when you are sad, and to tell you that everything will be ok when you worry.  I vow to adore you, cherish you, and to walk by your side as your best friend.  This is our beginning of forever and thank you for choosing me to spend the rest of your life with. I love you and will always love you!

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

 

vip0802:  Beautiful vows!!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

mine:

8,794. Those are the number of days I’ve been on this earth. there are three in particular that I hold closest to my heart. the day i was born. the day i met you, and today as I stand before God and all of our friends and family to say “I do”. <br />Ronald, you and i are far from perfect but we are perfect for each other. you are everything i’m not, and everything i one day hope i can be. you are strong when i am weak, you are humble when i am proud and you love me when i least deserve it.<br />Thank you for simply being you. A wonderful son, father, friend, and future husband; i can’t wait to love you for the rest of my life.  I plan to respect, honor, encourage and walk beside you in this life.  I’m beyond excited, and want you to always know that there may be lots of love stories but ours will always be my favorite.

some things may have been a little different- i tried to remember off the top of my head LOL<br />I didn’t cry during mine, but he sobbed like a baby and could hardly finish his <3

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

justjade:  Here were ours:

I, Groom,/ take you, Bride / to be my wedded wife. / I reaffirm my faith in Christ / and dedicate our marriage to be Christ-centered. / With God’s help, / I commit to nourish and cherish you, / to treat you kindly and tenderly, / and to honor you as my beloved wife. / I will provide for you, / pray for you, / encourage you, / and prefer you before myself. / I will love and treasure you / till death do us part. 

I, Bride, / take you, Groom / to be my wedded husband. / I reaffirm my faith in Christ / and dedicate our marriage to be Christ-centered. / With God’s help, / I commit to honor and esteem you / as the head of our home, / and to stand by your side / and support you through the challenges of life. / My endeavor shall always be / to make for us a home / where love and peace abide. / I will pray for you, / encourage you, / and prefer you before myself. / I will love and respect you / till death do us part. 

Then we both said this with our rings:

With this ring / I give you my love. / I pledge you my faith and trust / for as long as we live. / Receive it as a symbol / of our endless union / and our unbroken love.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Commenting to follow! I plan on writing my own and when I mentioned it to FI he liked the idea but said it would be hard! It will be challenging, but I think it’s worth it!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

We wrote our own vows together. so we both read the same vows to each other, but we wrote it as a team to incorporate everything that’s important to us. It was both sweet and funny (people “awwwwww” and laughed) as we read our vows

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