Post # 1
I attended a wedding a few days ago and I felt as if I learnt a lot!
- Entertainment is the key! Where I am, it is normal for the bride to be late. Entertainment until the wedding starts would be an asset. It would also be handy during the cocktail hour.
- Assigned seating is golden. I was planning to completely ignore this until I realized how handy it comes in. I arrived to the reception a bit late and the seats weren’t assigned. My FMIL and I had to go hunting for tables with 2 seats and then had to guard them like watch dogs if one got up. As a result, I (who is 24 years old) was stuck at a table with ladies whose ages range from 65-85.
- It showed me that program sheets are a simple way of knowing who is in the wedding party. It’s another thing I’m contemplating. Then again, I am planning for a tiny bridal party.
- It reminded me of why I dislike flowers… a little too girly for my taste.
- I forgot wedding favours existed untill a little box was handed to me before I decided to leave for the evening. It could be ommitted.
- It’s nice to mingle with the guests.
- The shoes go unnoticed… I’m going to have to find a way to show my gorgeous shoes!!
What have you learnt?
Post # 3
Make sure the food is good. It’s one of the things people will be talking about months later, and you don’t want them going on about how crummy it was.
Pay attention to the way the tables are arranged and make everyone feel included. People will be offended if they are shoved off in a corner.
Have a good sound system that everyone can hear. I had no idea what the vows were at the last wedding I went to, nor did I hear a word of the best man’s speech.
Post # 4
@tiff-tiff-tiff: like you said ppl forgot about the favors!! but at the wedding i went to they were mini champagne bottles so once ppl realized towards the end, everyone made a B line for them lol. so if u put a lot of effort (spend tons of $$ ) into them maybe consider placing them in a noticeable location, ive even seen them placed on tables or ommitting them all together.
in addition consider having various food options and covering the basic types if possible (vegetarian and meat eaters) I personally am not vegetarian, but ppl literally only had salad to eat at this wedding I went to and I felt bad/uncomfortable eating my lamb while they nibbled on little to nothing not bcus i was eating meat but bcus they had nothing to eat at all. it was horrible
Post # 5
@bowsergirl: Table arrangement is a good one indeed. Everytime someone passed by my seat, my chair got bumped!! The venue was over packed! I was a little uncomfortable and felt as if I was in everybody’s way.
Post # 6
Gaps are terrible, especially if you are from out of town.
Treat every guest equally; at the last wedding I was at, the wedding party had access to mixed drinks while the rest of the guests only had beer and wine. It was very noticeable, and rude.
Post # 7
Make sure you have a list of music for the DJ to play don’t leave it up to the DJ, I have been to a few weddings where the DJ starts playing modern techno dance music, so everyone goes outside to get away and no one dances. A good list of retro music is sure to get everyone up on the dance floor.
Also make sure you tell the photographer what photos you would like with guests, went to the wedding and the night is almost over and the brides asks for photos with all the tables it should have been done early on in the night.
Post # 8
I hate sitting around waiting for the bridal party to show up. And if you are going to keep your guests waiting, at least have a big variety of hor deourves.
Post # 9
@tiff-tiff-tiff: Must. Have. Alcohol.
I don’t care if you charge me for it, but do not expect me to spend 6 hours on a Saturday night at a dry party.
Post # 10
Don’t drag out the dinner and boring speeches/”entertainment”. And pick a nice accommodating venue that guests will be comfortable in!
Post # 11
I learned that i really don’t like head tables. We were at a table with all the bridal party dates (waaay in the back), and while they were all pleasant, it was plain to see that they weren’t having as much fun as they could be. And the bridal party looked uncomfortable too.
It gets REALLY hot if the reception is indoors, even with air conditioning. Oofda!
No one remembered the favors. A lot of guests picked them up on the way into the reception, but the majority of them just ended up getting left on the tables. it just slipped peoples mind, including mine (I’m sad about forgetting mine…)
Awkward swaying for the first dance is no fun to watch. Its cute for like the first 30 seconds, but 2 minutes…. you don’t need to have it choreographed, but some spins and interesting/fitting music (and a dip at the end! lol) makes all the difference!
Having a really long gap between the ceremony and reception is weird for out-of-town guests who don’t know what to do lol We just ended up going back to the hotel and watching spongebob for an hour and a half.
For the love of pete send out thank yous. We’re poor college students and gave a large gift (which we went in with some of our friends), and travelled through 2 states to be there. FI and I haven’t recieved a thank you and this wedding was in early june! It makes it seem like the bride and groom didn’t appreciate us going through all the work and sacrificing for them, They verbally thanked us for coming, but that gift was expensive and no thank you for it. (if you cant tell, i’m still a little peeved haha)
Post # 12
The last wedding I attended was mine!
I learned that you can EITHER 1-Run out of apps early OR 2-Run 30 minutes late.
Because if you do both, your guests will be STARVING and they WILL tell you how hungry/unhapy they are with your wedding!
(But our buffet was all-you-can-eat, so once people got their meals they were much happier!)
Post # 13
Cocktail hours that go too long. The most recent wedding I went to had a cocktail ‘hour’ that went for over 2 hours. Tbh it gets a bit boring.
Thinking about your guests needs – shade, water etc. being available if it is a super hot day is always appreciated.
Post # 14
The last wedding i went to was a lovely, at home, tiny ceremony. Still, I learned a few things.
I don’t care how late your guests usually are… do NOT tell them the ceremony is starting more than 15 minutes earlier than it really is. They had a house full of annoyed guests for 45 minutes!
I don’t care how short your ceremony is… have seats for everyone or no one. They had two rows of eight chairs reserved for family and one row of eight up for grabs. People were PISSED they didn’t get one of those 8 seats (since the BFF/officiant told me to grab two of them, I was not one of the pissed :P)
If you’re going to have a ton of liquor, for godsake have dancing music! Due to people drinking too much and having nothing better to do I was trying to get out of crazy drunk crying conversations all damn night & ended up leaving early for it!
Post # 15
1. At least for a smaller wedding, entertainment is unnecessary. Guests are capable of holding conversations and socialising.
2. If one of the couple has a child from a previous relationship, and that child is at the wedding, there is no need to invite the other parent (and it would have been super awkward to do so).
3. Most of the time, children at a wedding are no problem.
4. Life is much easier with assigned seating. (Though I already knew that).
5. Not everyone can attend, and that’s ok. No date works for everyone.
6. If you’re attending an outdoor wedding, wear sunscreen 🙂
Post # 16
Decor IS a MUST
good food is a must
if you want to be cheap then elope
everyone complained over the bar/drink selections and there were tip jars all over
doesnt matter because my wedding already passed. Lol