Post # 1
My fiance and I have been together for 5 years, living together for close to that as well.
While we don’t yet own a house, we do already have most housewares, etc.
I am at a loss for where to register and what to register for. I have some very conventional extended family who are already asking where we are registered and it seems having a registry eases some guests anxiety about gift giving. Plus, it helps you avoid getting 6 sets of dishes (an extreme example but you get the idea).
Just curious what other bees, who are in similar situations, registered for?
Oh and the whole register for the honeymoon idea isn’t an option since we aren’t sure when/where we will go on our honeymoon but it will certainly be several months after the wedding, if at all.
Post # 3
I should have added that we are also hesitant to register for more houseware type items since we aren’t yet sure where we will land permanently.
We would like to buy a house but won’t know until after the wedding where that will be and what it will look like (condo, house, size, how many rooms, etc).
Post # 4
I have owned my house for 8 years, and DH has lived with me for 1.5 years (in which he brought in all HIS stuff to the house). All of our guests knew of our living situation.
Therefore, we registered for NOTHING. When guests asked, we told them to just please come to our wedding. As it was a destination, we were truly happy to have them show up at all!
Still, most ended up giving us something anyway, like gift cards, picture frames, and cash. One of our favorites, though, was a cooler bag full of Wisconsin gourmet cheeses (they were from Madison). Another favorite was personalized Pilsner glasses with our wedding date on them.
Post # 5
I feel your pain. FI and I have lived together for 2 years and have owned a house for a year and a half. We don’t need housewares either, although we are registering for a few items which we already have but are wearing out and need replacement (like a nicer saucepan and frying pan, for instance). We’re focusing more on china, flatware, small decor items, and bed/bath linens. All of these things we really need or want, but we haven’t bought them yet because housewares/kitchen items have been a bigger priority for us.
Post # 6
I’m in the exact same situation. So I’ll tell you what I’m doing.
I don’t know how much time you have until your wedding. Most stores suggest doing your registry 3-6 months before the wedding date. If you have some time, as I do(12 months), here’s what my FI and I are doing;
– Keep a list of things you see that you’d like while out and about (I keep mine in the notes section of my phone). It doesn’t have to be traditional registry things. It can be anything. We’ve put down we’d like a subscription to a local theatre. A 10 play package is $140 and gets us 10 date nights!
– planning to travel (or in your case, move)? Register for good luggage.
– A lot of non-houseware stores offer registries or “gift lists” that can be shared with friends. Do you like books? How about a list of titles from Amazon.com?
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory
FI and I own a house together, and have lived together in it for 2 years now. we dont really need anything either. i registered on amazon for house decor stuff. like picture frames, things the decorate our mantile, we are planning on redoing our kitchen this winter so i found pretty door knobs that i know FI wouldnt pay for otherwise (he doesnt like to spend money on fancy things. if it works its fine lol) just random stuff like that. (most things are around $20) even if they dont want to get us anything off our registry hopefully it will show them some insite on our style. (rustic/hunter/country decor…. no modern style stuff for us)
Post # 8
@Vsmart: Some of our favorite things we have on ours (having lived together already for awhile too) is a roomba and a blender and aewing machine and steam mop. None of these are super necessary so we have never bought them ourselves but we said WHY NOT?! Haha we also have tons of little stuff that is just worn out now like cutting boards flatware storage containers and we just got a new apartment with a pantry (yippe!) so organization stuff for that too! We didnt choose to put really fancy ypgraded versions of a lot of things as much as put replacements of things that are the same quality we have now just run down (like our cutting boards are seriously starting to look a little sketchy)
Post # 9
We did a honeymoon registry. I was so sad to not be able to register for traditional items. 🙁
We’ll have to buy a few household things like my new blender when we get to our new home.
Post # 10
Absolutely nothing! We both have complete households and we are tossing/donating stuff like crazy. The last thing I need is more stuff!
Post # 11
We lived together for 2.5 years before getting engaged. We registered for everything. Basically upgraded our stuff, since most of what we were using in our house were hand me downs.
Let me tell you – it was really nice to get new bedding. It spruced up our bedroom from just dating to married!
Post # 12
@Vsmart: We upgraded everything! And only 4 people bought off the registry–everyone else gave cash!
Post # 13
@Vsmart: FI and I have been living together for over 2 years and he owns the house so yeah we dont NEED anything. But I want stuff. So I registered for what I wanted. He didnt and still doesnt care about any gifts unless its money. I suggest looking around Bed Bath and Beyonds website and seeing what all they sell. You may be surprised!
Post # 14
My FI and I bought our house last year, so it’s a little different for us. We did have lots of houseware type stuff, but ended up registering to replace our existing housewares (i.e. dishes, pots and pans, wine glasses) and add to our collection with a few small kitchen appliances. We also put on stuff like towels, sheet and pillows which I feel you can always use more of.
We really hummed and hah’ed about the new plates, but now I’m so happy we did, as we will keep them for a long time, and we went with a neutral style which would go with anything if we decide to change some of our dining decor down the road.
Post # 15
We haven’t registered yet, but we both own houses and have most of the things we need, so we’re registering for upgrades! I was kind of put off when FMIL was like “you don’t really need to register for any home items because you’re not setting a home up from scratch.” Uh, OK.
Examples of the things we’ll be registering for:
– Everyday flatware, so all of it is the same pattern, unlike the mish-mash we have now.
– Everyday dishes that will be our ours instead of mine.
– All-Clad cookware, because I’ve always dreamed of having it. We’ll keep some of our current pots and pans, too. It’s pricey, though, so I’m prepared to complete our set on our own if we don’t receive them as gifts.
– Everyday glassware, because I’ve broken a lot of our tall glasses with my clumsy flailing. LOL It would be nice to have some that matched again.
I also would like a new toaster and blender (so wedding stereotypical!) because both of mine are over 10 years old. The toaster works fine still, but the blender makes lots of weird smells when in use. LOL
Post # 16
We will have been living together for 2 years by the time we get married, and we both were living on our own before that, so we pretty much have everything we need.
We would like to buy a house soon, so we won’t be registering for much in the hopes of sending the message that a cash gift is preferred ;). I’m planning on registering for an upgraded floor cleaner/scrubber/mop type thing, perhaps a nicer vacuum as ours is old and really heavy/bulky, a blender (right now we just have a hand-held that splashes us and the whole counter every time we use it), pots and pans and formal serveware and bakeware (we have mismatched hand-me-downs from our parents right now) and then nice china and chrystal. We don’t really have a need for it right now since our condo doesn’t really have a spot for a table, so we don’t entertain now, but I know we will in the future and I can’t really see myself purchasing that for ourselves down the road. We’re not registering for anything else “for the future” or for a future home though… only things I couldn’t really see us purchasing for ourselves.