Post # 1
I didn’t think that I would say that we spent too much money on anything, but I honestly feel like we spent too much money on flowers. Looking back, we should have had WAY less flowers. We had long rectangle tables and they each had five smallish square vases of flowers. For some reason, in my mind I thought that we needed this, but when I saw it, the tables looked so lavish! I was a little embarrassed to have so many flowers. We didn’t really give our florist a set budget — we just told her what we wanted — and it ended up being $3600! Granted, we did have a large wedding, but I feel guilty that my parents, who graciously hosted our wedding, spent this much. I wish we had scaled it back considerably and put that money towards draping for our tent.
Does anyone else have regrets about how they allocated their budget?
Post # 3
I agree, our flower budget went a lot over. We ended up paying $1600 but I still feel guilty since my parents paid. We also spent a lot on food, but totally worth it!
Post # 4
We haven’t gotten to the flowers yet, but so far its been the art work for the STDs. My FI is really into tattoos so we are having one of the well known local tattoo artists paint us a picture that will be shrunk down to postcard size. We are gonna end up paying him around $300 (and thats not even including the postcards). Its way more than I planned for STDs but its the one thing that FI wanted to be incharge of and he is really excited, so its worth it. We do get to keep the original artwork and put it in a frame, so that will be a cool keepsake.
Post # 5
My dress was much more than I had hoped to pay. With the veil and alterations, it will be over 2K. I’m paying for all but $500 of that, and I work a minimum wage job. Ouch.
Post # 6
Totally feel you on the flowers. That is definitely what we spent too much money on. I can justify spending more on food and booze and even my expensive beautiful dress, but the flowers looking back seemed kind of frivilous. Also, I think we were taken for a ride by our florist by not being smart at our approach with them.
Post # 7
I am paying too much for the hotel room I will be staying at the night before the wedding and we will be staying at the night of. Way too much. I got caught up in the moment when I went to check out the hotel. Oops. Really really great room though. Big enough for everyone to get ready in the day of.
Post # 8
we didn’t really spend too much on any one thing- but we waaaay overbought on alcohol. My mom kept telling us “oh you can return the extra” to which we replied “or we could drink it” lol. Since it was only beer and wine we kept it and we have had lots of parties since! It is nice to be invited somewhere and be able to just show up with a couple of 6 packs and a bottle of wine! We did probably buy double what we needed though.
There were other things that wound up costing way more than I originally thought but once we considered it they were really worth it, like pohotography. Our original budget was about 1/2 of what we spent, but our photographers let us pay it in payments (which we are still making) and they were so worth it! When I think of all the photos we have and how amazing they all are it makes me really glad we decided to go for quality over original budget.
Post # 9
Maybe the photographer? Hmm… I wouldn’t even say that. We only spent $1,000 which is pretty much right where we wanted to be. I guess we have done pretty well throughout the whole planning process as far as not buying anything that is insanely expensive.
Post # 10
So far, it’s photography for us as well! We are spending over twice as much as what our orginal budget was for photography (based on guidelines from bridal books/websites in comparison to our overall budget) but this is something that we all (including my parents who are footing majority of the bill) feel strongly about. It was a really tough decision so I hope we’re all happy with it looking back!
Post # 11
@daniellemybelle: your flowers sound beautiful! do you have any photos of them?
Post # 12
Well, I don’t regret any money spent in terms of our wedding because we had the means and it all came together so beautifully. But we definitely paid through the nose to have the added ‘extras’ I really wanted–we rented gold chivari chairs, fancy gold and silver china charger plates and ivory satin napkins. I’d say this accounted for over $5k of the total cost. We might have been able to get these elsewhere for a little cheaper if we had looked. Oh and LIGHTING. I definitely shopped around for that one, but good lord that took up more of the budget than I would ever imagined in the planning process!
Post # 13
Like @ vistagirl, we way over bought booze (most of DH’s family left MUCH earlier than we anticipated, and due to the heat people drank more water and cut down on alcohol). We were hoping to return it, but since the wedding was in our hometown rather than where we live, and we immediately left for our honeymoon, we left it with my brother who proceeded to cater his own summer BBQs with it. He basically stole $450 worth of alcohol. I even tried guilting him into stopping using it by suggesting we use the leftover for a 40th anniversary party for my parents in Nov. He agreed…then hosted another party. F*cker.
Looking back, I over-bough decorations (we only used 1/2 the paper lanterns I ordered. Thankfully they were super cheap), and while we came in under-budget (yay!), if we’d needed to save money we could have pared back on the food. It was great, but we could have downgraded some apps etc.
We paid $400 extra for a 2nd photog which was a waste since she only took roughly a dozen photos. Seriously. Of the 1,003 images we got, I can discern about 10 that she took.
Knowing what I know now I would have chosen a much different wedding band. I love my ring, but the prongs on a full eternity band are WAAAAAY too high maintenance for me. I literally never took off my ering (plain solitaire setting), wore it to shower, work out, cook, clean…it was always on. My wedding band is a shared prong eternity band and gets caught on everything and gets dirty SO fast, I’m trying to train myself both to take it off for certain things AND remember to put it back ON after. I know as soon as I loose the first stone I’m going to scream and wish I’d gone with the old-school simple metal band.
As I mentioned, we came in under budget (by almost a quarter!), so there’s nothing I sincerely regret spending money on fortunately!
Post # 14
@Twalila, could you post a pic of your wedding band or one like it? I’m on the hunt and I’m a super low maintenance girl like you so I’m hoping to find something that won’t take much cleaning etc…
Post # 15
I spent way too much on my veil (I later worked out that I could have made my own slightly inferior version for about a fifth of the price + maybe 6 solid hours of work). It’s so beautiful that I refuse to regret it!
Post # 16
Wedding favours. I think they’re pretty useless myself, but my mum insisted on them. Not only that, she insisted on getting the most expensive kind there is (not really because they were the most expensive, more like because they were the most traditional).