Post # 1
I’m getting my parents a few things for the wedding day to thank them for being there and supporting me all my life. 🙂
My fiance isn’t quite as close to his family. They all get along just fine, but they are the kind of family that dances around emotions. Anyhow…I know we need to get them something, and/or he needs to, but I’m at a loss for ideas.
What did all you bees do?
Did you find gifting necessary? Did you do it individually or as a couple? What were your fiance’s gift ideas for his parents if he/she did give them something? Any other ideas or stories are welcome!!
Post # 3
We got a gift for my parents. Did we find it necessary, no, but they had helped out quite a bit both with their time and money, and we wanted to show our appreciation. We got my dad a bottle of whiskey and we got my mom a food mixer she’d been eyeing.
For his parents we didn’t get anything. They didn’t help with anything, but we didn’t ask them to either. They showed up to our wedding, stayed at the reception for a bit, and that was that.
Either way, I don’t think gifting is necessary.
Post # 4
@Twyla_Smith: My parent’s also helped out a lot financially for the wedding – they are paying for most of it and my mother has helped me with most of the planning. I also love giving gifts – so I had theirs planned from very early on.
But his parents are much more difficult and all the really sentimental stuff that i usually love to give people would make them super uncomfortable. Yet, I’m sure if it got out that one set of parent’s got gifts and not them…i would hear about it for the rest of my life….!
Post # 5
My fiancé and I bought his parents a gift card to a restaurant at a winery they enjoy. We wanted to give them a nice night out to enjoy post wedding chaos. We did the same for my parents.
Date night is important at any age!
Post # 6
@Lakelyn: That would be a good idea…but his parents dont really date. His dad is uncomfortable going out to eat places and its not something they really enjoy. (I know…its strange).
Post # 7
His parents didn’t have a full matching set of dishes (yes, really) so we bought them one (at IKEA). We got my mom a massage and pedi and dad a giftcard to his favorite restaurant (so mom kinda won on that one, he wasn’t going alone).
Post # 8
@HappinessIsInDaisies: Well, you don’t have to tell the in-laws that you got your parents something and not them!
You could get them something practical. Do they need new towels, something for the kitchen?
Post # 9
We got both sets of parents a family portrait from our wedding. Ordered the canvas print from Costco. Obviously, we gave that to them after the wedding but it was our thank you gift for being an important part of our special day.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
We didn’t give either of our parents gifts on the wedding day. We didn’t feel it was necessary either. We plan on sending them framed photos from the wedding though.
Post # 11
We did small things for our parents, included them in specific get ready things, got them personalized hankies, wine glasses/mugs, and I hand made them cards. We also plan on getting them nice framed photos of us from the wedding.
Post # 12
I don’t want to speak ill of my parents, but I moved out years ago and we’re not that close. They’re not contributing to the wedding. I was just going to do parent albums for each.
FI’s parents are pretty good to us. I guess I’ll leave it up to him if he wants to get them something extra. They always seem uncomfortable getting gifts from us though.
Post # 13
@Twyla_Smith: Haha…that is true. 😛 But somehow I would be afraid it would get out. Im already the girl “taking away their precious son”, so i just try and make sure i do everything right with them!
@ImHungry247: @prisigtr: @PrincessPerry: I like the framed picture idea. They don’t really need practical things and they dont go on dates together – But a picture of them with us from the wedding day, even if we can’t give it to them then, is a good idea. 🙂
Thanks everyone for all the ideas!
Post # 14
We gave each set of parents a heartfelt thank you note, and a small album of wedding pictures. The albums were designed so that if anyone wanted to take out a photo and put it in a frame and display it, they could. And they have 🙂
If they were to help you financially on the honeymoon, then you could bring them something interesting from your travels.
Post # 15
@HappinessIsInDaisies: FOr my mom I really wanted to get her a vacation somewhere but she doesn’t care to travel. So I bought her a whitegold necklace with a butterfly charm bc she likes butteflies. I also got her a keychain for her to attach to her corsage the day of the wedding that has a picture of my father in it (my father passed away)
For FI’s parents we have no idea what we are getting them, we are still looking at ideas. We are thinking of getting them a giftcard to their favorite restaurant and also get them something more personal
Post # 16
We gave each set of the parents a double frame that held our invitation and an e-pic, and we gave them their last name in that style where found object are used to make the letters.