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I'm pretty lucky to have generous, loving in-laws. However, it wasn't always that way...we're a continuous work-in-progress, but for the wedding, my mother-n-law gifted us $8K and my father-in-law gifted us $2K, though my father-in-law did have to give a monetary offering to my parents of $18,888, of which my parents kept $8,888 and returned $10K as part of the traditional Chinese dowry for the bride. My mother's asking price was $8,888, plus gifts of a whole suckling pig, 24k gold jewelry, and pairs of Chinese delicacies such as abalone, Hennessy XO cognac, birds' nests, ect.....which was pretty elaborate. The most surprising thing of all was that my in-laws agreed to all of the "requests" without complaint; surprising because we've had our differences in the past, but it helps when both parties can forgive and start anew.
My inlaws were overly generous. It is a theme with them, and I will probrably fight it until the day I die. I'm simply not used to it.
My In Laws were super generous and have us a large amount of money to do with as we wished (wedding, house, save for future). My parents on the other hand surprised me by giving us nothing. They did not contribute to the wedding. No card, no gift.
I know weddings are not about gifts, but they are my parents and to this day, I am still hurt by their attitude.
We received a refrigerator from my in-laws, plus about $1000 towards our wedding. Most of that went for the reception and the rest to get our getaway car (his dad's '73 Chevelle) running. They don't have much, but they do give what they can.
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My in laws paid for our flowers and the rehearsal dinner, but also gifted us with several gifts off of our registery - all of our flatware, serving pieces, and some other items they thought we'd get to use a lot.
My parents gave us $10,000 towards the wedding, $1,000 towards the groom's attire, our traditional Korean outfits (han-boks), and bedding items (comforters, etc).
We feel so lucky that our parents were so generous and supportive.
Good to know my ILs aren't the only crazy ones. My BIL got us a Macy's gift card, and then had to borrow the money to pay the pastor, which he had said he would do. My SIL got us an espresso machine, which was not only not on our registry, but was bright red, which goes with nothing in our kitchen. When we tried to return it, it turned out not to be a model sold ANYWHERE. When DH finally asked her, she said she had picked it up on sale at some little place where she lives, and hadn't kept the receipt. I ended up gifting it to a friend of mine who is redoing her kitchen with red small appliances, and who also took a ton of photos at our RD and wedding.
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My in-laws gave us some money, paid for some of the reception, paid for the invitations, and got us a little gift for our kitchen! They are always generous!! We appreciate all they do!
I have very generous inlaws and they gave us $5,000 to use for the rehearsal dinner, plus toward the wedding. Also, they paid for half our photographer's fees and they paid for all the tuxes for the wedding. On top of that they gave us a set of 3 candle holders with candles and two rolls of stamps to use on our thank you cards.
My parents got us a piece of art, which we would never have picked out for ourselves, but which was such a delightful surprise! My parents collect this kind of art, and I had never thought to get a piece myself. The thought alone was a lovely gift.
I think the roll of stamps for thank you cards is the best idea for a wedding gift I've ever heard of. Mind if I use that in an upcoming wedding? ;)
You don't have an option for "paid for part of wedding and gave gift." My IL's paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave us an heirloom-quality mantle clock.
I was going to go with "nothing", but on reflection they did host a lovely rehearsal dinner and I don't know why I never considered that the generous gift that it was.... (Considering that my parents didn't help at all with the wedding, theirs was in fact the biggest contribution.) Ungrateful Tulip!
mil gave us some money, then 3 weeks later gave us a large check to pay for a new HVAC system for the house we bought. fil is doing half of the construction work on our new house, so essentially his gift is labor, expertise and tools.
<span class="postby"> lilneko69, i know the feeling. my parents gave us an obviously cheap card and only signed their names. for me it's the lack of effort that hurts so much.
My in-laws gave us a bunch of money for a down payment for our house, plus they hosted a beautiful rehearsal, paid for the flowers and photographer, and contributed to the reception cost as well. They are so generous, my MIL also took me out to get all my 'accessories' for my wedding dress, shoes, underwear etc. I am so grateful to them!!
Even though Mr. PG's parents are divorced, they are both equally generous. Both are giving a little for the wedding (every little bit helps!), hosting the rehearsal dinner...and the future MILs have attended both of my showers and (against my request not to, because they've already done enough!) brought us gifts off of our registry.
I am extremely thankful!!
My FIL's are paying for the rehearsal dinner, as well as the groomsmen's accomodations. But the most amazing gift is a brand new washer and dryer for our new house. When they told us they were almost apologetic, saying "we know it's not very exciting". Meanwhile I was dancing around the living room like a lunatic because our current washer dryer is about 300 years old and sounds like it's trying to take off into space when it's on spincycle. I'm a very lucky girl to have such sweet and thoughtful inlaws!
MIL didn't give us a gift, but FIL paid for our photography, RD and the honeymoon.
My Inlaws paid for the rehersal dinner *and* gave us our kitchenaid stand mixer! I'm seriously in love with that thing!
My in-laws (whom I love dearly!!!) gifted us with 15,000 to use for our rehersal dinner, videographer and our Honeymoon...what is left will be put into a high yield account to save for our new house.
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I voted that the inlaws gave us a monetary gift. MIL gave us money. FIL gave us money and paid for our entire honeymoon! It was DisneyWorld magic!
My FILs are hosting our rehersal dinner (which I was just told will be amazing as its a surprise), buying our flowers... and my FIL is going to marry us!! 
They also have helped us with sending invitations, decorations, etc...
My mother has given us $500 towards the reception & $500 towards my accessories.. my father is paying for our transportation...
My in-laws did contribute money towards the reception, but also gave us a beautiful digital picture frame (not from our registry).
My in-laws paid for our rehearsal dinner, co-hosted the brunch the next day with my parents, and also gave us a beautiful gift of filling out the antique silver set that my husbands grandmother had given him several years back. It was a partial set, and his parents filled out the rest and bought us some extra serving pieces. It was VERY generous and so thoughtful!
MIL & FIL gave us a card. They said they were going to give us a gift as well but I have yet to see it. MIL also did not bring a gift to my shower either (which was a lunch hosted and prepared with a significant cost in terms of money and time by my mom and her friend). I should also note that 10 of MILs friends/family attended as well.
My SIL and her husband gave us nothing. She was in the wedding and I paid all of her expenses but she did not help out or attend the shower or bachelorette party and did practically nothing for the wedding.
Good times.....
My in-laws paid for our rehearsal dinner and gave us $500 towards the wedding. My MIL initially offered to pay for the flowers, but once she realized they would be in the thousands, she gave me $500 towards them. In their card, they also gave us $1,000 and a very nice decantur. My in-laws are not very well off, so this was more than what we expected from them.
My BIL is also not very well off either, but gave us $500 as a wedding gift. He was my husband's best man, and helped to arrange and pay for his bachelor party (they went to a Phillies game).
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My in-laws have been exceptionally generous. They are paying for the rehearsal dinner and day after brunch as well as our honeymoon in Paris (including spending money). So far they have also given us a gorgeous and expensive shower curtain from Anthropologie, towels, crystal champagne glasses, wine, a set of regular wine glasses from Romania, a couple of cookbooks, and some kitchen items from our registry.
The ILs gave us a lump sum to pay for the wedding plus honeymoon. Any money we didn't spend would be kept for our savings. They also gave us some pieces that were given to them when my hubby was born (Asian culture). His relatives were also generous. The thing that I appreciated the most though was "Welcome to the family!" after our recessional. :)
My in-laws are crazy. They are paying for 1/3 of the wedding (my fiance and I are paying for 1/3, and my parents are paying 1/3). In addition, they are giving us a separate gift of $65k (yes ridiculous), insist upon paying for half of our honeymoon ($2k) and to top it all off, my FMIL bought me a Louis Vutton handbag. We've tried to refuse and they won't relent. Words simply can't describe how much I appreciate their generosity!
My in-laws were super generous. They paid for half of the wedding AND bought us a quite expensive gift off of our registry.
Their generosity never ceases to amaze me.
My in-laws are incredibly generous. They are paying for a huge amount of the wedding. I don't really expect any gifts but knowing them there will be some. The other day FFIL gave us $1,000 because he made extra money consulting and wanted to share.
My parents generosity blows my mind. I'm almost embarassed by how much they are paying for the wedding AND they bought our honeymoon flights to Italy. If my mom splurges for my shower I'll kill her
wow! you girls are lucky! my in-laws have not offered to pay for anything-and yet keep increasing their guest list (which I continue to cut!!) I was under the impression that it may be a cultural thing with his parents (in his culture you basically make all your money back from the wedding plus extra) with that being said, we are having a traditional American wedding, not one of his culture. I understand not being able to help out, I completely get that-but please limit the spending (guest list..yada yada..)when it is my fiance and I who will be paying for it!!
My parents on the other hand are helping in any way they possibly can and continue to give.
My in-laws have been extremely generous! They attended 3 of our showers and brought gifts from our registry to each. They are also paying for half of the photography and having a casual rehearsal dinner at their home. OH yeah, they're also paying for a portion of the honeymoon, and we never asked them to pay for anything! They're really excited and just really like to help out as much as possible :)
We eloped, but when we got back, both sets of parents gave us around 15k a piece to play with and use for house stuff, life, etc. Both sides continue to be generous and even though we all have our issues, we feel very loved by a whole lot of people. My ILs also bought all our All-Clad pots and pans.
We didn't get much from my in-laws. But they don't have much money. So it was expected.
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My FI's Mom and her husband have been quite generous. They have offered and helped with some huge purchases for the wedding like our rehearsal dinner, cake, chair covers, etc. They also already purchased quite a few items off our registry as soon as we were engaged. My favorite... my Kitchenaid Mixer 
!! My parents have also been quite generous! We are truly thankful for their help and blessed to be surrounded by such amazing people.
My inlaws promised an amount to contribute to the wedding and about 3 weeks before the big day backed out on several thousand promised dollars. What they contributed ended up paying for the VERY scaled back rehearsal dinner I put together once I learned of the financial shortfalls. As for the wedding, we didn't so much even get an empty card from them. I assume they considered the rehearsal dinner their gift, but seeing as how they INSIST their son get a ridiculous card for every single event in their lives, I was more than surprised they didn't get us one of the normal horrible cards for the wedding.
I voted an empty card, but I'm not even going to get that. We also have to pay for FBIL and FMIL's plane ticket and FFIL's suit.
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wow! My FMIL gave us the deposit for the photos ($500) for chrismas and I think she was going to give FI $ for his birthday but he ended up needing a new cell phone so he got that instead. I have no Idea what she will do for the actual wedding! Some of these are amazing! We are paying for almost everything (my mom is buying the dress) and I am secretly saving for our honeymoon to surprise my groom.
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