- 1 week ago
I’m not a total idiot, but I still feel people may bring up excellent points I hadn’t considered and would love to hear from everyone. Whether general or specific, I (and I’m sure others) would enjoy hearing from y’all on what you discussed, what you wished you had, what you feel is most important, etc.
Some that come to mind include:
Finances: Personal spending habits, debt, monthly bills/loan payments, standard of living/lifestyle expectations, credit score, if you will change/join/whatever bank accounts.
Children: do you want them, when, what happens if you get pregnant way before you guys intended, how many, thoughts on discipline, religion, schooling, what if they aren’t the sexuality you anticipated, etc.
Location: more or less self explanatory. But also, what is worth moving for? Who do you want to be close to or far from?
Careers: who has one? Who wants one? Would you move for yours/his?
Trust: this could play into communication, or is it deemed okay to be alone in a social setting with someone of the opposite sex, phone or computer privacy, etc.
There are surely MANY other things, but I’ll leave it to all of y’all.
And, of course, some are more important than others (and that also varies from person to person). For example, credit score and spending habits are VERY important to me. I’ve ‘trained’ my boyfriend to think about the cost of things more, better value, what he actually needs, etc because he just wasn’t very mindful of it before. He is fine with it and even grateful. Money is just a big topic with my parents (my mom thinks Suze Orman is the bees knees and reeeeeally wants us financially savvy and self sufficient) and I’m a little bit of a cheapskate, but his spending was unchecked in college and into military life so he’s been glad for the shift (and he likes that I’m a cheap date lol).