WHAT do bridesmaids have to do?`

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@MsquareM:  there isn’t much that they HAVE to do. Show up, wear a dress, hold flowers when they walk down the aisle. You can have them come in with the groomsmen or by themselves. I am having DH standing up with his groomsmen already when the bridesmaids walk in. And then be in the bridal party photos afterwards. 

Optional stuff: 

Organize a shower

Organize a bachelorette

Help with wedding planning

Help with crafting stuff

Go with you to try on dresses

Buy the accessories you tell them to (or let them choose their own with a few guidelines)

Get their hair done for the wedding

Get their make-up done or do their own make-up



Post # 4
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

They really only have to do as much as you delegate to them. They are sort of around for help and moral support. 

Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

They’re really just there to be pretty!

(Though some people also have them plan showers/bachelorette parties or help with DIY projects)

Post # 6
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Maid of honor is just an American term for witness. Their only ‘job’ is to stand up for you. The rest (plan your parties,  serve as your servants, be a prop for pretty pictures) is just a few bridezillas’ interpretation. Oh, and having multiple bridesmaids solely exist to create drama foe the wedding. Personally stick with your sole witness. It will probably save you a lot of grief.

Post # 7
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I love having bridesmaids. I don’t know how it is in other cultures, but my maid of honor went with me to try on wedding dresses and my bridesmaids have gone to bridal shows with me. (Where you meet vendors, get fed, and win door prizes, it’s lots of fun!) I like the idea of us all getting ready together the day of the wedding. Having my best friends there with me through it all makes it so much nicer. I have definitely gone to them for advice. (Which veil looks better? That sort of thing) It is customary to get each bridesmaid a gift of thanks for being part of your day.

Post # 13
33 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

My understanding is that they are really just there for extra support/ love… and I was taught it is a position that of honor  (ie you want the guests to know that the people up there with you are those who’ve been and will be your biggest support- next to your parents). 

Post # 14
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MsquareM:  The really basic things that they have to do is as follows:

1. Show up on time for the wedding.

2. Show up looking neat and presentable.

3. Show up sober and with a smile on their faces.

That’s the basics. What else they wind up doing really depends on the area that the Bride is from and whats considered the norm there.

Post # 15
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

They show up to your big day and look pretty – and support your day!

Everything else is optional.

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