Post # 1
I am struggling with what I call my dad’s wife in my wedding programs. He is getting married this July to his girlfriend of just over a year. I don’t really know her and since they live out of state, I don’t really get the chance.
The problem is I’m not sure what to call her on my wedding programs. Stepmother comes with certain connotations that suggest she played a part in raising me. Can I call her “wife of the Bride’s father?” or is that as cold as I think it is…
Post # 3
In the programs can you list people by couples? Such as “John and Jane Doe, father of the bride and wife”? Takes a little of the coldness out when she’s immediately associated with a member of the family, IMO.
Post # 4
Technically she will be your stepmother, but I understand the association with that word. Could you ask your dad what he would prefer?
Post # 5
I don’t anything wrong with calling her his wife because that is what she is.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Talk to your Dad about this. My Dad & Step-mom have been married for over 15 years, but she’s not on the invites or program. I asked my Dad about it- he said he wouldn’t have expected to have been on her children’s invites- they married when I was an adult, so she didn’t raise me.
That being said, she’ll be the first one escorted in for the processional, will have a corsage, and will be announced when everyone comes into the reception. MrsWrangler’s suggestion is fantastic- wish I’d thought of that, versus “parents of the bride.”
Post # 7
i think MrsWrangler had a great idea. i would NOT call her your step mother because that implies a closeness between you 2 that, for many reasons, does not exist. honestly i probably wouldnt put her on my program at all but you are a better woman than I 🙂