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    Swiss Miss to Bee    October 10, 2010   Fairfax, VA

    I just need some advice, what would you do in my sitch? 

    ok, so I'm visiting my folks overseas right now and it's pretty awesome, but I'm scheduled to go back to the states soon.  My FI is in, you guessed it, Switzerland.  I made the move there in September, and we got engaged in November.  Now, I was planning on staying in the states pretty much up until our wedding so I can work and make (hoard as much as possible) money to ya know, PAY for the dang thing.  (My folks are giving us money and he's adding some but I want to "pad the budget" as my mom says, and I know there a million things to pay for that you don't even think of at first...)

    Anyway, I'm supposed to return to the states this week (this remains to be seen as things are a little hectic in the caribbean right now...) and then I'm meeting FI in Boca next month!  He's got a work trip, woo hoo!  Anyway, after THAT I was planning on already having a place to live so I could work and make aforementioned money!  My problem is,I have NO money right now to even find a place to live, IF I could even find a place that would be cheap enough for my money hoarding plan. (Um, 300 a month anyone....no?  No takers...?) I had a few things tentatively lined up, like ppl that said, "Oh you can stay with us" and then I never heard from them again?  And I don't want to, BOTHER people, ya know?  It's just an odd situation. 

    Oh in case you're wondering I can't work in Switzerland b/c I don't have a Visa yet...that will come after we get married.  And even if I was to just go back there, and do a civil wedding, it'd still be hard for me to find a job b/c I don't speak the language :o/  PLUS I'd miss out on all the fun wedding planning stuff.  I already had to book my reception place without seeing it!  I'm crossing my fingers that I like it once I see it in person. 

    Woo, sorry for this long rant.  Anywho, thoughts?  Opinions? 

    OH and hey anyone in the DC or South Jersey area lookin for a (cheap) roomate?  Had to ask  ;oP

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    If you've had people mention that you could stay with them, I would suggest sending a casual email to a group of acquaintances/friends (including ANYONE who offered to let you stay) and mention when you'll be back in the States, how excited you are to see people, etc. and then mention that you're still working out the details of where you'll be living and working, so if anyone knows of anything to please let you know. That way they can re-offer if they're serious.

     
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    Swiss Miss to Bee    October 10, 2010   Fairfax, VA

    Yeah, I did that last night, sent a mass email again.  I feel like people are like "uh, you again!?"  lol....But no one's written back so far.  Except my old boss in NJ said I could come back and work there, so that's something...

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    great! If no one offers you a place to stay, you could always check out Craigslist and see about renting just a room -- be sure and really check into it though, because there are some real weirdos on CL!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I'd take up ANYONE who offered to let you stay for a little bit.

    And yeah, I'd look into renting a room from someone too! There are lots of people who have a room in their houe to sublet. Craigslist is an option but I think there are more "reputable" sites out there.

    You won't be able to get a place of your own b/c for apartments you need a year's contract usually (unless you're military in which case you can safely break your contract w/o penalty in some states) and first and last month's rent (so yean a few grand lol).

    You could do some searching in college towns--lots of people need temporary roommates! Or student housing sometimes has 6 month leases. You don't always have to be a student if it's not university sponsored.

     
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    cherryblossom80    August 21, 2010   NY

    You seem like a perfect candidate for Couchsurfing.com  We use this frequently as a cheap way to travel and meet people. We just had a guest from belgium stay with us last weekend. You may consider joining. I also understand about planning a wedding from overseas without seeing the hall... i did the same thing!

     
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    Swiss Miss to Bee    October 10, 2010   Fairfax, VA

    @Cherryblossom-Yeah, I've heard of Couchsurfing.com before...I'll have to check it out! 

    @ejs-I def. won't be able to get a place by myself, I can't even afford it!  I have no money to start out with, I haven't worked since last May :o/  I can't complain though, I've done a lot of traveling...

     

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