- 6 years ago
I moved in with Fiance 3 years ago and we live the other side of the country from my parents (about 4hr drive). Mum and family really want me to get married at my home church but I really liked the idea of getting married where I live now as it is my ‘New Home’. To be fair the church where I grew up means more to me and my Fiance also likes this idea. I have also spoken to the vicar and he is happy to do the ceromony, the church really is beautiful.
Problem is we have been back and forth to my parents to look at reception venues after the church ceremony and out of the two we liked one was darn rude and the other was trying to get so much money out of us on extras I think we were lucky not to give them a deposit in the end!
We have looked at everything else around where I grew up and have found a beautiful garden but it means we would have to hire a Marquee and pay the venue lawn fees which is out of our budget. If we went with this option we would need another trip to mums to have a look at a selection of Marquee companies talk to the wedding lady and arrange a food tasting before we gave them a deposit (FI and I haven’t got time for another trip until August due to work commitments). I really don’t want the additional stress of worrying about a Marquee if there was a storm or sitting in a tent when it is chucking it down with rain Fiance is not sold on the Marquee but we both know they can look stunning if you find the right company, dance floor, starlight ceiling, bar etc.
Mum has seen this venue, fallen in love with it and wont let it go! We have been engaged for 9 months and mum is stressing me out asking if I have booked it almost every week and offering me the extra money and that that I need to get it sorted in the next month. Goodness knows why!!?? I guess she is just playing mum and as I don’t see her very often and she is excited and wants a date to look forward to.
I however am so stressed now after so many trips at weekends and my Fiance works so hard it is not fair to keep asking him to take time of work to journey down there. I feel I just don’t want to get married where I grew up, I would need to take so much MORE time off work to journey to and from mums and organise the wedding and sort out a flipping tent.
What do you bees think? Would it be rude if I said to my parents I wanted to get married up here, there are some great last minute deals we have seen and it is so much cheeper here. I just wish I could pick up Mums church and bring it to a venue here.
Or should I just make my family happy, go with a reception venue mum loves and take a risk.