Post # 1
So here’s the short verison….My Fiance asked a good friend of his to be a groomsmen. He jumped at it. Nice guy and a true friend. Here’s the problem… I can’t stand his future wife. I just can’t stand her. I find her to be a coward, she has caused problems between me and a friend, the problem was so bad that we no longer speak. Now the futire wife only contacts me when she needs something. When she and I were friends she would come around and take pic’s of my DIY stuff for the wedding and she has everything I have only different colors. I know it sounds childish, but she is not Irish why is she planning an Irish wedding? I don’t want her at my wedding and she knows I don’t like her, because I have told her. What do I do if he brings her to our wedding? The Maid/Matron of Honor wants to be the bouncer and throw her out lol. But seriously what am I going to do?
Post # 3
You should be the person. You seriously wouldn’t invite her because she is annoying? She is his fiancé, you do need tominvitemher, and if you exclude her it will cause drama, and put adrift between your Fiance and his friend.
Post # 5
@LammChop: Agree with the PP…just be the bigger person and invite her. You aren’t going to be hanging with her during your wedding…heck, you may barely see her. Don’t let someone like her worry you…it’s not worth it.
Post # 6
i posted earlier than you choose your friends not your friends partners – he is your FI’s groomsman and she is a packaged deal. be the bigger person, be polite but dont engage. goodluck!
Post # 7
Thank you very much and you are all right. I know i can just act as if she is not there. Heck maybe she wont even show up, she works nights.
Post # 8
She seems to need a lot of attention and gets it by causing drama.
You are not her mother and cannot change her. Be civil, but if I were you, I’d make sure to steer clear of her ENTIRELY!! Yes, you must invite her to the wedding because of your connection to her beau, but be sure not to have anything to do with her prior to your day as she will be sure to give you a lot of stress.
Have your bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor be a liaison for you if absolutely necessary, but do keep her out of the picture. And, if you are in her presence, be sure to have your closest BFF’s around you for cushion and support. That’s what they are there for. Leave the gossip to a minimum so no rumors fly around and cause more tension. I’m sure she will be on her best behavior at your wedding once she sees the support you have of your family and bridal party.