Post # 1
I posted this in the wrong forum And didn’t get a lot of feedback on it. So therefore ill put it in the right one and see what happens :).
I have been thinking about this lately and been stressing. I’ve read a lot of blogs on here about this topic but wanted to get more insight. My wedding venue holds max 300 guests. My Fiance and I have a guest list (with STD already sent out) at 320ish. Should I be stressing about everyone saying “yes” once invites go out? Or send out 300 worth of invites and send the other 20 at a later date? Will 20-30 say “no”? And if not how do you tell someone who received a STD that things changed and we had to cut the list? Need Help with this to ease my mind.
Post # 2
I haven’t done my STD’s or invites yet, but from what I read, especially on this board, is that it’s normal that at least 20% of your guests will decline, so just go ahead and send out the full 320. I doubt everyone will accept unless you’re super close and/or related.
Also, in my opinion, it is rude to not send out an invitation to someone whom you had already sent out a STD to.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry at all, I’ve never heard of a single wedding with 100% rsvp rate. Usually it’s 50-80% depending on the time of the year, etc.
Post # 5
With a guest list that large, you will have people decline! I had 480 invitees and only about 325 RSVP yes.
Plus as PP stated it would be very rude to send out a STD and not an invite.
Post # 6
I had a 19% decline rate.
Post # 7
I saw a chart once that compared decline rate to total invited but I can’t find it.
I just found something though that said an average acceptance rate is 65% for out of town guests and 90% for local guests.
Post # 8
You should be a little nervous, but it will probably be ok.
There are a lot of variables such as when is the wedding? Is it local? Are all the guests local? are you actually close to all those people?
If you invite someone you have to be prepared that they may say yes. You have to be prepared to host them accordingly, should they come. How embarassing it would be to have to uninvite someone after they had accepted.
But….with so many people it is unlikely they would all be able to make it. There are cases on this board, where people have overinvited and everyone said yes.
Post # 9
You will be fine inviting 320. I invited 120 and 100 came. I sent out Save-The-Date Cards way in advance. There were about ten cancellations in the last couple months- couples breaking up, people getting sick, etc.
Post # 10
Don’t ever invite more than your venue can hold. Make your “A” list, send your STD’s and see how many people reply that they can’t attend. Even though it’s not an invite yet, some people will reply if they know they are not able to come. The alternative is risking having to dis-invite some people if everyone says yes, which is a real jerk move.
Post # 11
JM3030: Don’t invite more than your venue can hold. In doing so you run the risk of putting yourself in the horrible position of having to “uninvite” people if you are over the limit.
Please have an A list, and as the regrets come in, send out more invitations.