Post # 76
We’ve never traveled anywhere together so I’ve never had a need to see his passport. All I know is I can’t make any impulsive decisions right now. But I definitely know I can’t marry him. Whether or not we can start over and rebuild trust I don’t know. I cannot overlook this HUGE lie but I still love him. When you love someone so much it’s not as simple as just walking out the door. If it was then there was no love to begin with
Post # 77
Christina Burmistrova : Please seek counseling. This person has isolated you and no doubt is with you in part precisely because you are the type of person who doesn’t look too closely or hold him to normal standards. The truth is you loved who you thought he was. He’s not really that person.
You have a job, a car, and no responsibilities to anyone but yourself. Getting out really is that easy. Getting over it may take a little more time, but will be an investment in a better future.
And one lie? No, these are multiple and massive. He outright lied about owning the house for God’s sake. And every single day he let you think he was ten years younger.
Again, the crazy story about his father makes no sense. It wouldn’t have prevented him from telling you the truth and it’s a crock of BS anyway since anyone could just look it all up online. Who is he trying to con?
How are you even considering moving forward? You are young with your whole life in front of you. Don’t throw it away.
Post # 78
Christina Burmistrova : This is not the first lie you’ve heard from him! What about him lying about owning the house? Not telling his family you’re engaged?
Post # 79
I’ve packed a bag and I’m leaving now to go to my parents house for a few days. He hasn’t given me any space at all to think. I don’t know what will happen but I can’t stay in that house with someone I don’t trust. If my work fires me I’ll figure something else out. My sanity and well being comes first right now and I can’t focus on work and try to deal with all of this.
Post # 80
Christina Burmistrova : Good! I’m glad you’re going to your parents. Hopefully there you will be able to think with a clear head and get your thoughts straight. I’d suggest going absolutely no contact with him during this time as well. Don’t answer his calls or texts. Best of luck to you!
Post # 81
Christina Burmistrova :
This situation seems horrible.
Post # 82
I am glad that you are taking some time to yourself. This happened to me, only I made the mistake of marrying that man. He lied about his age, he said he was 5 years older than me, but he was 13 years my senior. He lied about so, so many more things and they were revealed over time. He lied about having a license (drove on a suspended one and ended up getting arrested for that). He lied about how many kids he had; he said he had one and it was actually three. He said he was paying child support (was not). He revealed he had been a drug dealer and went to jail for that in the past. I thought he was being very honest, except he left out that he was secretly doing drugs himself. Please, please, please do not ever marry this man. I promise you, my love quickly turned to hate when I discovered all of the lies. I have a feeling that your FI has been married before, too. Another reason he would have hid the marriage license. I dunno what state you are in, but it was a question on my marriage license request. By the time you figure out there are worse secrets, you could be trapped in a miserable marriage. I hope you believe you deserve better. 7 yrs is a long time, but you can find someone who honest to marry sooner than you think. Best of luck to you either way…