(Closed) What do I do about gifts when we’re moving out of the country after the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I received an invite to a wedding like this. The bride and groom are moving to Norway, and so they requested monetary gifts only. On one hand, I found it slightly rude, but I do understand their situation and I will honor their request – they don’t have a choice. I think in the case of moving overseas, it’s definitely acceptable. Just explain to people who may not be aware that you’re moving, and they’ll soon change their tone. Everyone knows how hard it is to move, but few can even imagine doing it overseas. :

Post # 4
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We were in this situation as I relocated from Texas to England to be with my husband.  We struggled for quite a long time with how to handle it.  We didn’t want to have to ship things, nor did we want to obligate our guests to pay for international shipping for our gifts.  In the end, we registered at Amazon.co.uk which was an easy site for guests since they were familiar with Amazon.com and kept shipping rates local to England.  A friend of my Hubs collected the gifts for us until we returned from the wedding.  

Several guests gave us checks/cash because they knew our situation.  On the whole, most people understand and are happy to accommodate your situation.  That said, we did receive a few ridiculously large gifts (15 piece pyrex set!) which we returned and used to buy more practical things we could actually use. 

Overall, this worked really well for us.  

Post # 5
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you want a registry for the relatives that are dead set on traditional gifts, you can set up a registry on amazon.co.uk.  A lot of their household and garden items will ship to the mainland EU, HOWEVER, you need to put each item into your basket and try to check out with the shipping address to spain to see if the item will ship.  Oh, and don’t register for appliances from the UK amazon. 😉 Power conversion.

You can also check out the German and France Amazon and see if they’ll have any items that will ship like appliances.  Just keep in mind manuals will be in French or German.

Otherwise, get the word of mouth going that you guys are moving and won’t be taking much with you.  That you’ll be purchasing everything from scratch in spain for your new household.  Maybe even write about it on your wedding website if you have one (how you’re so excited about starting all over in spain, yada yada and so on).

Post # 6
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552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are goin to do a house hold shipment a few months after our wedding.  I Have a large storage unit full of stuff that needs to get moved anyway, so I’ll just throw all the shower/wedding gifts in there. 

Post # 8
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2 posts
Wannabee

I would suggest using a Europe-based online wedding registry.

I use http://www.wunschboutique.de – they will ship Europe-wide and are much nicer than amazon for a wedding. They do cash gifts and charitable donations as well as household items.

Wish I had found the website in time for my wedding – we ended up shipping gifts from India where we had been living temporarily to Germany, and most of them were not things that we will ever use! 

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