Post # 1
Ok, so today really isn’t that great of a day either But he and I are going to dinner tonight just the 2 of us and that will be nice.
My diliemma is this ladies….. We are trading in the ring that he gave me 2 years ago for my birthday. We are trading it in towards my e-ring. I have been told by his friend at work that he thinks my BF will go Friday to buy my ring since they are not working tomorrow. Since I have the ring on my finger, I don’t want him to have to come out and ask for it. Then I will know that he is going to the jewelers. I want to put it in a box on his side of the bed and let him know that it’s there.
What do I say and do?
Post # 3
Where do you keep it when you don’t wear it? A jewelry box? Why don’t you just put it in there and I’m sure he’ll know it’s there or ask you about it.
Post # 4
I think the box next to his bed would work out just fine!
Post # 5
Hmm.. I second HotChild – if you take it off in the shower, just leave it where you normally do and don’t say anything. My FH didn’t trade my ring in – but he knew where I kept my one fancy ring and swiped it secretly for sizing. Turns out I wore that ring on my middle finger, but I appreciated the attempt.
Post # 6
ModernDaisy: My fiance did the same thing haha. Except he swiped some random cheap H&M cocktail ring that I wore out to the bar and such. I was so shocked when my engagement ring fit perfectly!
Post # 7
I would tie a big ribbon bow around it (seriously, huge floppy bow on little tiny ring) and leave it on his pillow, but I’m not known for my subtlty 🙂 (or my spelling)
Post # 8
I would do what HotChild mentioned, if not the his or even your bedside is perfectly fine.
Post # 9
Lol I like the bow idea… not so subtle is how we have to play it because boyfriend is pretty (self-admittedly) dense sometimes!
Post # 10
I haven’t taken it off since he gave it to me I wear at all times, in the shower, doing dishes, in the garden. Wherever. He knows that I don’t take it off.
He does know my ring size. He even confirmed it with his buddy at work. Because he friend asked me what it was and told me what my BF had told him and sure enough he was listening.
I’m thinking that if I put it in the little box on the dresser that is on his side of the bed he should be able to find it. I want to let him think he’s being sneaky.
But what do I say if he asks me where it is or why I am not wearing it?
Post # 11
Why not just hand it to him at dinner? Tell him you want him to hold onto it “for safe keeping”.
Post # 12
Well my FI was going to trade in another ring for my e-ring and he didn’t he just went ahead and got the ring I wanted at the store it was at. So you just don’t know what they end up doing. My FI felt like it was strange to trade in another ring on an e-ring he said he’d trade it in on say a birthday present one day. Whatever makes him more comfy works for me.
So I would just take the ring off and leave it where you do when not wearing it. If he takes it fine if not that’s okay too. Don’t freak out he may just have decided that he doesn’t need to trade it in any more.
Post # 13
I will probably just put it by the bed. It’s not like he is actually going to go buy my ring anyway though. I was really really excited after we looked at rings and I picked one out and especially after he opened up his store card again. Now I am just sad. I have talked myself down into a funk where I don’t think he will actually do it. I know he has told his friends at work he is buying my ring before October 3rd but I don’t know if I believe. I think it’s just empty talk and it’s getting my hopes up for a major let down.
Sorry to rant and sound like downer. I don’t mean to bother anyone with my issues. I just don’t know what to do. He knows I want to marry him and we have talked about it a lot lately. Maybe he changed his mind though.
Post # 14
Hang in there. Focus on the two of you and why you’re together. It will happen when it happens and it will be a really exciting day. Don’t get too down.
Post # 15
Don’t doubt yourself!!! The night before FI proposed, I went into this tailspin, believing that he didn’t even want to be with me (because he hadn’t propose).
Give your man some credit and keep wearing the ring as usual. Maybe he figured out another plan or maybe he’ll ask you for it, when it’s time to swap. It sounds like you two have already talked about a game plan for how to pay for the ring (ie: trading in your ring) – is that the case? (or did you hear from a mutual friend).
I’d say – DON’T leave the ring by the bed. He’ll think it’s odd, since you haven’t taken it off. If he needs it, he’ll ask for it.
Second, stop talking to people about it. It will just make you feel worse, if it doesn’t happen on your birthday. And, TRUST ME, when I say this. When it DOES happen, all this waiting and wondering will all seem so distant. Focus 110% of your waiting/worrying energy on the relationship and on doing things to show your guy you love him. I had submerge myself in a variety of things, so I didn’t go absolutely batty with the wondering.
Hang in there!!
Post # 16
Don’t worry, it will happen! Why don’t you talk to him and give him the ring? Tell him that he should hold onto it because you want to be surprised by the proposal. After that, try not to think about it too much. I know, easier said than done.