(Closed) What do I do? (Kinda long sorry.)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

How are your parents taking it? How far along is she?

Just say that if she needs anything you will be there for her. Since, it is probably going to be highly unlikely that the boyfriend will be greatest father. She might need help finding prenatal care. Do not get involved in any drama if there is any.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just be there for her…no matter what.

Right now she needs all the love and support she can get.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@buggaboo6:  She can go, but it might be kinda difficult considering she is due in January.

Do you think she might have wanted to get pregnant? Just a thought, I just don’t buy the whole, “I did not know I could get pregnant” excuse.

I know she is your sister. My sister got pregnant really young as well. She thought it would fix her relationship with her then boyfriend at the time. It backfired. We are now dealing with custody issues with the father and she still lives at home with my mother.

When she first said she was pregnant, she said she thought you only had to take the pill when you have sex. I knew she was full of it, because the doctor explains to you how to take it and the pharm tech explains this as well. There is even a pamphlet inside that tells you to take it everyday. We also have sex education during middle school where this is explained.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@buggaboo6:  I do not want to put ideas in your head, that is from my own personal experience and it is quite common from what I had heard. We all make stupid decisions at one time in our lives.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Right now it doesn’t matter if she meant to get pregnant or not. The best thing you can do for her is to let her know you are there for her. I was a teen mom and juggling college, work , and parenting was really hard, but something I had to work out if I wanted to be able to provide for us. I wouldn’t tell her you are sad or cry around her, I can assure you that she has already thought of all those sad scary things that are to come, so try to be a supportive and positive as you can be:)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Be supportive to her, be there when she needs… but stay away form the drauma.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

When my sister got pregnant I had no positive feelings towards it at all.  She was super bratty because of “her hormones” and she became really moody because she “was tired all the time”.  She dropped out of school and used up all her sick days at work just to sit around the house.  The baby’s daddy was just plain AWFUL.  Every time I was around them he would tell me that he wanted to have sex with me and her at the same time.  He cheated on her multiple times and even brought her STD’s.  He is an immature guy who acts out in really petty and hurtful ways.  She is stuck with him because she had his baby.

 

When the baby came though everything changed.  He’s so amazing, my nephew.  He’s smart and cute and fun to be around.  I love him SO DEARLY.  I still have no positive feelings towards the fact that she is stuck with this guy but the baby is a  magical creature.  He’s so wonderful.  I cannot fathom a world without him at all.  Sure it’s not ideal but take this for what it’s worth:

 

When that baby comes every feeling you have right now will be secondary.  You’ll help that baby where you can and help your sister where you can and life will unfold.  There will not be a single day that goes by that you don’t love that kid.  Just focus on that and remember that your sister is going to live her life the way she is going to live her life and you cannot control her choices. 

 

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