- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So, I’m in a bit of a pickle, and I’m not sure how to move forward at this point, so I’m hoping for some insight into what to do next from a third party who is not involved in the situation what so ever.
One of my really good girlfriends (we’ve been friends about a year and a half) is getting married in September. I have been so excited for her and her fiance, and have helped with pre-wedding things like dress shopping, and the stag and doe.
My girlfriend decided she didn’t want any bridesmaids, so I am doing all of this stuff because I like to see her happy and like to.
So all has been well and good until about 2 weeks ago. She decided to throw her bridal shower (her second one, the first one was last weekend and I wasn’t invited) on my husbands and I’s one year anniversary, which is this weekend.
Originally. my husband and I were going to stay in town, so I told her I was able to go. My husband then suprised me with a (non refundable) camping trip as we both love camping and havn’t been away all summer.
I was asking a mutual friend of some things to do in the area we are going to, mind you I did not tell this friend when we were going, but word got back to the bride that my husband and I were going on a trip.
So the bride texts me asking when we’re going. So I appologize profusly after telling her its the weekend of her bridal shower and explain the circumstances.
She was short with me, so I figured she was pissed and let her cool off. The next day I get a long facebook (yea I know) message telling me what a horrible friend I am and if the shoe were on the other foot she would do whatever possible to make it to my shower, as she pointed out how much she “did” for me last year when I got married (she just attended my gatherings and did not go over and above or anything).
I text her and ask if we can have lunch and talk this out. She said no and that she needs “time”, that was two weeks ago. We talk on a daily basis, so going two weeks with no word is very unusal.
I’m sending a gift to her shower with another mutual friend.
My husband says that she it totally overreacting, and so do some of my friends (who are not friends with her, I havn’t involved them for obvious reasons). But I still feel bad. I also am starting to get pretty angry she has chosen to give me the silent treatment for two weeks, and I’m losing my patients.
Her acting like this makes me not want to be her friend, and I consider(ed) her one of the nicest, coolest people I’ve met.
I have appologized several times and feel I do not need to anymore as at this point I feel like I would be begging for her friendship, which I’m not about to do. I understand showers can be important, but the bride told me herself about 4 months ago that the wedding isn’t that big of a deal and she didn’t even WANT a shower!