What do I say????? uncomfortable request…advice please

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Tell her you have a contract with the stylist and everything was paid in full up front.

Post # 5
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would just tell her I want it to be just me and my closest girls and mom and suggest somewhere she could go, I mean it’s your day. 

Post # 6
1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just try to be honest and say this is a special moment for you between you and your mom and closest friends and that you believe the daughter would feel out of place. Just do it in the nicest possible way.

Post # 7
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hollyberry4:  I would just politely say “no.” You’re not at all being rude, she’s being rude by inviting herself to the getting ready festivities when she’s not even technically family. Tell her that you’ll be spending the morning with your bridesmaids and your mother. And that the stylist is contracted for a certain amount of time and will already be rushed. 


Post # 8
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would email her a list of reputable salons in the area and let her choose on her own.  I think its kind of rude cor her to expect you to handle it when they are not in the wedding 

Post # 9
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@hollyberry4:  You don’t have to lie! Just say you paid already and booked your slot and don’t say she’ll take extra people at extra cost 😉 just a matter of choosing your words! 

Not going to lie, it’s your wedding, you shouldn’t have to cater to havin your guesta hair done.. That’s on them!

Post # 10
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hollyberry4:  Just have your dad’s GF call the stylist. Tell her: “I’m so excited that Daughter wants to be with us while we’re getting ready. I’ve already signed the contract made the final payment with the stylist. But I do think it’s possible we could add her on to our appt. I’m super busy with all the final details, so it’d be very helpful to me if you could contact the stylist to add Daughter to the schedule.” And I would just be honest about finding another salon. “I’m no familiar with the area, but I’m sure Googling something would do the trick.” It’s not your responsibilty at ALL. The best way to manage stress in these final days is to just say NO (nicely) and DO NOT FEEL BAD about it!



Post # 11
4138 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would just tell her that your stylist is already booked and under contract. Are you going to a salon? Maybe there’s another stylist that can take her. 

Post # 12
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@hollyberry4:  This is not your job and even in my early twenties I knew to not bug the bride at all the week of her wedding or ask for any special requests or favors.  Talk about clueless.

It’s your wedding….just tell her the stylist is booked up but she can find some great spots if she opens up her laptop and looks it up herself (nicely of course.)


Post # 13
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

yeah…I would feel a little odd about this too…the situation is strange. I would personally just give them a list of salons in the area, that way they can call and make arrangements…I really don’t think that should be your responsiblity and with the wedding so close..yikes…that’s asking a lot from you!

I don’t blame you for really not wanting someone you don’t know very well getting ready with you and your bridesmaids…and if she’s not in the wedding…that’s strange. Of course, it’s a nice jesture of hospitality to have her come with you…if that’s what she wants to do….I could imagine it would be odd for her too??

Good luck….I’m sure everything will work out great!

Post # 14
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@skippydarling:  +1.

5 days out from your wedding and she’s asking you for favors? Unreal. Be honest and tell her it’s not an option, and that she’ll have to figure it out herself. 

Post # 15
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I would let them know that your stylist can’t add anyone in and tell them that you don’t want the responsibility of recommending a place that she may or may not like.  Tell her to try Yelp and look at local reviews.  Totally not your responsibility to figure this out for her.

Post # 16
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This isn’t a hair party or a free for all; its preparation for the wedding ceremony. I find the request very odd, and I honestly would talk with my dad and tell him they need to take her to a salon. They need to be finding a salon themselves.

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