Post # 1
Hey ladies, I posted here last week when I got my BFP. I’m about 5 weeks along now so still reeeeally early. I know usually women don’t have their first appt for a few weeks after they get their bfp but since I’m a type 2 diabetic, everything has been kicked into hyper-drive. I already had an appt last week with my PCP which I had to ask for a couple hours off work for. We talked about my care going forward. It seems I’m going to have a lot of dr. visits in my future. I have to see the endocrinologist once a month until I’m 6 months along, then every two weeks from 6-7 months, then weekly from 7 months until birth. In addition to that I will be seeing a nutritionist, my OB-GYN and a high-risk OB-GYN.
I wanted to wait until I was much further along to tell my boss I’m pregnant, but I just scheduled 4 Dr. Appts for the next month within about a 10 minute phone call. And tomorrow afternoon, for instance, will take the entire afternoon. I feel awful asking for so much time off. I know they would understand if I explained the situation, but I really didn’t want people knowing at 5 weeks :/ There’s no HR or anything here. It’s a small insurance agency with husband and wife agency owners and one other co-worker. What would you do? Am I just going to need to tell them?
Post # 3
@swanks4tw: Your best bet is just to tell them. Also, when arranging Dr visits in the future, make as many on the same day as possible, that way you are taking a day off instead of a bunch.
Post # 4
Could you just be vague and say you are going to doctor’s appointments, and explain later? Do you think they’d ask what the appointment is for?
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@swanks4tw: Tell them you are following up with a specialist on a non life threatening medical issue. They don’t need to know any more than that. I was getting treatment for cervical cancer and I didn’t want my male boss to know the gory details so I told him it wasn’t a big deal but I had to follow up regularly to make sure that it didn’t turn into a major medical issue.
But I will say that when I was pregnant it was during the swine flu epidemic and I was so ill from morning sickness that my boss tried to send me home. I had a private meeting with her to tell her that I was pregnant and it was early on so I didn’t want to tell my co-workers quite yet. She was happy for me and didn’t make a big deal out of my morning sickness after that.
Post # 6
Unfortunately I agree your best bet is to just tell them. I think they will be the most understanding if you do it that way, although I would make sure to say to them it is very early and they are the only people you’re telling b/c of the appt. situation so they should not say anything to anyone. Wishing you a healthy 9+ months!!
Post # 7
I would not divulge your private medical information to your employer. tell them you have a medical appointment. They are not in any way entitled to details.
Post # 8
I dont’ think you should tell yet. They can’t ask about details about your medical appointments unless you choose to share that info. I used to say “I have an appointment” you don’t even have to say “medical”. Try to wait it out a few more weeks at least.
Post # 9
I agree that you can just allude to an appointment. They’ll probably assume you’re pregnant, but hopefully will be polite enough not to ask until you’re ready to share. Congratulations!
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I told my boss that I was having female issues and would need to see the doctor frequently. She was concerned, but I made it quite clear I was unwilling to share more. (I had early complications, but everything turned out fine) I told her at about 14 weeks. I firmly believe this is your news, and you should determine when to share it.
That said, it’ll be hard with all of those appointments, so I would tell your boss something.
ETA: The only reason i specified female issues was because I pretty much broke down in tears in her office after my doctor told me she needed to see me as an emergency appointment. I had to leave my office at noon for the appoitnment, so I told my boss female issues. I kept up the trend with really minimal updates until I was ready to tell her. My office is really nosey, so it was hard to keep the sharks at bay.
Post # 11
Agree with others that have said to just tell your boss that you have several medical appointments this month. Promise to keep him or her in the loop and give as much advance notice as possible as to when your appointments are scheduled and how long they will take (I know you said the upcoming one will be all afternoon, but perhaps some will be short follow-ups you could take care of on your lunch hour, or mostly on your lunch hour and so you will just have to take like 30 extra mins off?)
Best of luck and congratulations!!
Post # 12
@swanks4tw: I think telling them early is the easiest way, but really I am just following because I am a Type 2 also and am excited to meet another young one! Best of luck with your pregnancy!
Post # 13
@swanks4tw: If it were me, I would tell my direct manager and ask them not to tell anyone else as you are not ready to announce it. But I work in a radioactive job site, so my exposure limits change when I’m pregnant, so it’s important for me to disclose. I think it’s better for the direct manager to know what is up so they don’t start asking for doctor’s notes or something. I think most employers are understanding because they legally have to be.
Post # 14
You can use FMLA time for doctor appointments if you’re eligible. Look into it with your HR department. Luckily, my OBGYN has great office hours… sometimes until 7pm on certain weekdays. So, most of my appointments are in the early evening after work — which has been nice because then my husband can come too and it doesn’t affect either of our work schedules.
Post # 15
I don’t think you have to tell them anything and legally they aren’t supposed to ask, unless you are going on medical leave (and even then, it’s a generic note from your doctor saying you need xyz off). I didn’t tell my team until I was at 20w that I was PG. Otherwise, I just went to the doctor’s and no one asked. If you like, you can schedule some for around lunchtime so it looks less obvious.
Post # 16
I would just tell the boss you’re pregnant, have type 2 diabetes, and will need to go to a LOT of doctor’s appointments because of that complication.
Honesty is the best policy!