Post # 1
I’ve heard so many statements like “People never remember X part of a wedding.” I’ve only been to a few and since I was 12 years old or less, nothing stuck with me except that I was bored and my bride-cousin looked nice in her dress. So, for those wedding veterans who have been to a lot, what do you remember most? What would you want people to remember about your wedding?
Post # 3
I remember the looks on the bride and grooms faces when they get up there and look at eachother during the ceremony. that always makes me cry! lol i also remember the food IF it was good.
Post # 4
As a guest, I remember the beginning of the ceremony, the end of the ceremony, and the food. So, as an encore bride, I’m concentrating on the FOOD this time. The ceremony can’t change much, as I’m getting married in a church, and most church weddings have a format.
Post # 5
I’ve been to lots of weddings starting from the age of about 2 (almost 33 now!)
I can’t tell you exactly what I DO remember because it varies but I can tell you what I DON’T remember (across the board):
Flowers (don’t get me wrong, I love them but I couldn’t tell you what any particular wedding flowers looked like unless I really, really think about it)
Invitations (or any other paper products for that matter)
Cake (looks or taste)
Food (almost completely draw a blank)
Bridesmaid dresses (unless I was one)
Favors (100% couldn’t remember if you paid me)
Sometimes I remember the brides’ dresses (about 1/3 of the time)
Sometimes I remember ceremony details like readings or music (about 1/2 of the time)
Sometimes I remember toasts/speeches (about 1/4 of the time)
The most memorable things have been the way the bride and groom look at one another/how happy they look, the overall feeling of the day, the fun we all had (somehow I don’t remember the non-fun ones…maybe there weren’t any???)
For better or worse I think the memorable things to me have always been intangible and completely unplannable (not a word but you get what I mean I’m sure!)
Post # 6
The food. always remember whether it was good or not, if not specifically what it was. Whether the music was good for dancing to. The length of time hanging around between ceremony and reception!
To that end I’m keeping the photo sesh to under an hour, being really fussy about the food, and dreading booking a band to play!
Post # 7
The one thing I NEVER remember is the cake (taste or look). I always remember what the bride wore. I only remember certain things if they stand out like one wedding had gorgeous BM dresses, but in general I could not tell you what the BMs wore and another wedding had an awesome band.
Post # 8
I always remember the food, and I always remember if the music was good for dancing. Other than that, I remember the unique things that stand out… like if the cake was exceptionally good, if the speaches were exceptionally touching, if they had something cool like a candy bar.
Post # 9
People rarely remember the inivitations, programs, escort cards, favors, type of flowers.
As for things people remember, I hate to say this and I don’t mean to knock anyone’s religion… but if you have a long ceremony and people are bored, they will definitely remember that.
I think the thing people remember the most is the general feel of the day. Was it formal, casual, relaxed, upbeat… was there fun music/dancing or other activities?
I think people remember the food IF it was either really good or really bad, or if there wasn’t enough (though they probably won’t remember the exact meal).
Some women will remember the bride’s dress.
As an aside, I went to a wedding a few years ago that I remember perfectly b/c it was so… incongruous (??). The bride and bridesmaids wore VERY formal dresses, there were tons of roses and other flowers everywhere, the invitations were very formal (with tissue paper etc), but the reception was very informal… with paper plates and plastic cups… minimal food, and no forks, spoons or knives at all.
Post # 10
The things that most stick our for me are food and music. Bad food will make people talk and a bad DJ can ruin your wedding. Also, I remember how we were taken care of. I hate to say this but I do remember if a wedding had an open bar and I’m not a big drinker.
Post # 11
The ceremony: whether or not it was personal, if it was too short or too long, if any innapropriate jokes were made by a priest, etc.
The food: only if it was really good or really bad, or if the food ran out (happened once at a family-style meal)
Music: I LOVE to dance
And most importantly: whether the bride and groom look happy
Post # 12
I remember the overall look of the ceremony and reception sites. Decoration, and especially lighting makes an impact for me.
I also remember the food, if the music was good or bad, and how much fun I had! I also remember the bride’s dress and how beautiful she looked.
I don’t remember little details, like seating cards, bouquets, favors. I don’t think those things should be overlooked, they do make an impression on the wedding day, and they’re forever in your pictures.
Post # 13
I think people remember if anything is awful,especially the food and music. They also will remember if anything funny happens that’s unexpected.
I’ve been to plenty, and I can remember vividly, certain things from weddings that weren’t so generic.
One bride that I’ll never forget was dressed in a Juliet cap encrusted with red jewels and it actually tied under her chin. Her gown matched (with red jewels at the neckline) and it was truly a terrible look. I remember her bridesmaids as well as it was a winter wedding and she had them in red gowns wearing white fur hats…each one was worn differently too…tilted right or left or on the backs of their heads. UGH.
I remember my friend’s wedding over 30 years ago and her BM’s carried flower pomanders…first time I ever saw it.
I remember the most elegant wedding I ever attended…it was and is still the most fabulous to date! Food,venue,band….just wonderful. Part of it was also a Mass in an un~airconditioned church (in August) where a GM and guest fainted because of the heat.
Terrible music with no variety is also memorable.
Post # 14
The thing I remember most is the bride and grooms interaction. If there are a happy bride and groom excited for their day then all the other details take a huge back seat, that by far is what I take away the most from weddings.
The other thing is personality. Like plenty of people have a gorgeous wedding cake and I might look at it and say that’s nice but it doesn’t make a lasting mark on me. But I do remember details more if it’s significant to that couple or representative of them, like one girl made her own wedding cake and just did a fantastic job and decorated it in the season they got engaged in, it was neat.
And I guess the last thing is relaxed. I remember if the guests felt like they were walking on pins and needles or just too much structure to have fun and I remember when it’s relaxed and you can talk and dance and mingle and feel yourself.
Post # 15
I second remembering food and music! I know when I’ve had a really awesome meal at a wedding, and I can remember several weddings where the DJ made or broke a wedding. A good friend of mine had an awful DJ, and I can say that we left shortly after dinner.
Post # 16
I agree, I always remember how the bride & groom were during the ceremony. I went to one wedding last summer where they wouldn’t look each other in the eye, it was SOOOOO weird!!!! It still freaks me out! At the end of their ceremony I quietly said to FI, “That’s what not to do during ours!!!”. In contrast to another one last summer, where the bride came down the aisle by herself (her father passed away years ago) but her FI met her halfway down the aisle, and when he met her in the middle, they had a high five! LOL! Apparently it wasn’t planned either, but it was so perfectly suiting to them, it was adorable. The whole ceremony was very emotional, it was beautiful. I don’t remember any of the readings, etc, just that they were really happy.
I remember GOOD food, although not specific dishes typically. I certainly remember if the food is bad. IE) At one wedding they were serving chicken skewers as a passed appetizer during the cocktail hour and FI got one that the chicken was raw. Not okay. I tend to remember late night buffet or desserts, but mostly because I can always go for an extra piece of cake 😉
Good music, definitely. Oh and make sure your sound system is set up properly!!! I hate being at weddings where they put half the guests BEHIND the speakers so they can’t hear anything! Why would you do that?!
Never remember flowers (except if they were awful).
I always remember the venue and whether or not it was nice. For instance, I went to one that had beautiful grounds but the interior of the venue was made to look like a medieval castle, complete with moat and drawbridge to cross to get to the bar. It was pretty awful. BUT the food was great!!
I don’t typically remember too much about the bride’s dress unless it was really remarkable/unusual. I only remember the bridesmaids if they were wearing something horrendous.