What do people say to you about TTC/parenting that makes you feel crazy?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My sister always makes comments like ‘You can just have my kids because I’m sick of them’ or ‘Ugh, I’m so tired of my kids, they drive me crazy’.

I totally get that having kids is stressful and she is just venting but don’t complain about your kids to me. I have been trying for 2+ years and don’t want to hear it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m 18 weeks along right now, and since the day we told our parents, my MIL tells me that she’s going to come over every day and night as soon as the baby is born because I won’t want anything to do with the baby. She says most parents don’t want to be around their kids, so she’s going to take care of ours. My @$$ she’s coming over every day and night…

Post # 6
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007

My mother will often comment, “I want a grandbaby in 2 years, wink wink”. Seriously? DH and I had such trouble conceiving in the past (2 years TTC, two MCes), I think it’s going to take a while- and we are unlikely to have children anyway, so please just don’t say anything.

Post # 7
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

FI’s brother and SIL always say to us, “Ugh, don’t have kids.” They have one child, a 2.5 year old little boy who is very sweet, but also your typical little boy. I don’t understand why they’re so “overwhelmed” with him (though I suspect their marriage problems have something to do with it, in which case why did you get married and then have a child?). It doesn’t help that they treat him like a baby and not a toddler (carry him everywhere, don’t let anyone touch him, they remove him if he starts making any noise ever, he doesn’t use utensils, they tear what food they do give him into teeny tiny bits). “Oh, you’ll see. Kids are terrible.” Uhh…? I happen to love kids and kids love me, so…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m just sick of the kid comments. My mom and sister are obsessed with me getting pregnant right away and they even think that’s why we’re getting married so soon. My mom is the worst, she talks about it ALL THE TIME.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

@Peffy:  I’ve told her so many times that it won’t be happening any time soon and she laughs it off. Or reminds me how old we are. We’ve actually been sort of trying for 2 years with no luck (I would NEVER EVER EVER tell her that!!!) so her comments just make me even more mad.

Post # 13
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1615 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Peffy:  lol. My MIL TOLD me that she, along with all of DH’s aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandma will be in the L&D room.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Peffy:  They’re such an odd couple. They just don’t mesh at all. I’ve NEVER seen them be affectionate. They’ve been married for ten years–FI and I have been together for almost five and we’re completely the opposite. I’ve asked FI why they got married before (because they have nothing in common and he always seems so brought down by her), and he was like, “I don’t know. They were each others’ first everything in college and I guess they just…stayed together.” Kayyyyy…that’s probably not a good basis for a marriage. Then the kid came along and things got worse. That comment about not having kids wasn’t even a one-off; they’ve said it to us probably 20 times. 

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