Post # 1
Would love to find out your opinions of how I should handle this situtation:
So a good friend of mine is getting married in October. Her bachelorette party is the last weekend of this month at the beach (approx. 2 hours away from where we live). Everyone is going down Friday and staying until Sunday morning for the festivities. I, however, have to work until 5pm Saturday. By the time I get myself together and drive down, I won’t get there until 8 pm, and then have to turn around and leave the next day at 10 am.
Would you go to the bachelorette party? Right now my financial situation is not the bext either, so I have been thinking about not going and maybe giving one of my other friends a card to give to her from me with $20 saying “A couple of drinks on me”. I just feel like a bad friend, and I don’t want her to look at me that way.
Post # 2
HeatherD16: Even though I have FOMO (fear of missing out), logistically, and even realistically, going down after work may not be a great idea. On one hand, you are spending gas money, etc, for a few hours of fun, which (yes) is worth it for great friends.
On the other hand, when you arrive at 7-8pm, I would make a guess that you will be arriving into a drunken sh*t storm. Bachelorette party + beach + weekend destination = drinking from sun up to sun down pretty much (at least that is how my friends roll…), and so will you really have the best time ever being ‘so far behind?’
I love your idea of a card, money and a nice note. As a friend I would completely understand why you could not be there, but perhaps I am in the minority?!
Post # 3
No chance of getting out of work? As the bride, I’d be okay if you couldn’t make it as long as you made a serious effort to try to get off that weekend (assuming they gave ample notice of when the party was). As the friend, I’d personally do anything to even be there for those few hours. Not saying you are wrong not to.. just what I would do.
Post # 4
I agree with OUgal0004. That’s a lot of driving and gas money for a few hours of fun. I like your gift idea! Maybe you could even go a step further and call up the bar they’ll be at and surprise them with drinks, and maybe ask them to put her favorite song on the jukebox, something like that?
Post # 5
Thanks for the opinions so far! Unfortunately, I work in the wedding industry and I have a wedding to prepare for that day so it is very hard for me to take off weekends- Especially in May and September!
Post # 6
If you can’t get out of work earlier then you should explain the situation to the bride, I’m sure she will be fine with it. Also landing mid way into a hen party is not a good idea, I agree with OUgal004!