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What do we do? (invite/guest list question)

posted 1 year ago in Family
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    M.Ruder    July 2, 2011   Saint Louis

    Hi bees!  So FI and I went to BM grad party today, and I'd never met his family, but they were wonderful!  So BM &his FI lives w/ his parents.  We sent a STD to the BM and FI ONLY (the name on card was to the two of them)

    Well, we get there today, and his mom was talking about our wedding, and asking a lot of questions about it.  Then when we left, she said "see you at the wedding!"

    .........uh......

    It's not like MY FI has known the family a lot.  He met BM in college, and only met BM mom twice. 

     

    Like...what do we do?  We don't really want to invite her, nor can we, really as $$$ is already stretched. 

     

    But then again, she was sooooo super nice, I'd feel sick about hurting her feelings by not inviting her.  Seriously though.  I only JUST met her!  UGH!

     

    What on earth do we do?  (We're not sure if BM thinks his mom is getting invited, Probably not, but you never know)

     

     

    HELP!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I wouldn't invite her.  If she asks, just tell her that due to budget reasons you only could go with close friends and family.  Since they have only met you and your FI a few times, they should understand.

     
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    julies1949      

    You simply cannot invite all the nice people in the world you have met once or twice.

     

     
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    cheetah    January 1, 1990  

    Do you think maybe she meant your BM's wedding instead?  

     
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    M.Ruder    July 2, 2011   Saint Louis

    @Genesee: No, because she had pointed to our STD on the wall, and the BM isn't even close to planning a wedding (nothing set).  It was definitely OUR wedding.  *sigh*

     
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    JennyW1    February 19, 2011  

    Totally agree with Julies--this is your BM's...parents?? Whom you've only met 1-2 times? That's *quite* an expectation, in my book.

    I would normally say you *could* put them on your B-list if you have one, but them being BM's parents and all, they'd know it, so just bite the bullet and cut.

     
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    sessaj    October 23, 2010   NL, Canada

    Oh, that's so awkward!  I agree with MissAsB, I would explain that due to your budget you could only invite close friends and family.  I'd also make sure FI talks to BM about it and makes sure BM explains to his parents.  If you rarely see them, then might it be that you won't see them again until they show up at your wedding??

    Good luck - I hope it works out so that no one is offended and you feel good about the decision!

     

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