Post # 1
What kind of gifts should we get our parents?! My FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, $1,500 of our wedding alcohol (random, I know) and our hotel room for two nights. My parents (divorced) are paying for a lot of our wedding. My mom is paying $15,000, my dad $10,000 and we are covering the rest (sadly, there is a significant rest.)
What the heck do we get them? Also, do we need to get something as signficant for his parents even though this event was mostly paid for by my parents? This is difficult…
Post # 3
I don’t have any suggestions for gifts (I don’t think that’s really a custom where I live, thankfully!), but I would suggest getting them gifts of equal value assuming they will be receiving their gifts at the same time. It’d be a little awkward if one set of parents got an expensive gift, and the other parents got something cheaper.
Post # 4
@LadyElva, where do you live? I just read your rant post and I can completely relate (btw)
So I should add that my fiance’s best friend just got married and they bought his parents a cruise! I think they bought something of equal value for her parents. My fiance has a completely screwed up idea about what we need to do because of it.
Post # 5
@NDfan2009: There have been many rant posts about the FILs, unfortunately! I’m in Australia – I’d never heard of buying gifts for the parents before Weddingbee (and I think even buying gifts for the bridal party is unusual here!).
Wow, I can’t believe someone bought a cruise for their parents as a gift! At most, I might consider a few nights in a hotel or a spa day or something, given how much your parents have contributed, but I honestly think if you’re all paying so much for the wedding, the parents will understand if you’re not buying them a big lavish present.
I don’t think the gift you’re giving them is supposed to “equal” what they contributed, or you wouldn’t have needed them to contribute in the first place! Especially given that there are three sets of parents to buy gifts for. Just pick an amount you can afford, then give them a gift that falls within that range.
Post # 6
My parents told us not to get them anything and that they would be really annoyed if we spent our money on them when we are setting up a home, etc.
We are giving both sets of parents parent albums, though. Maybe something else small, because my mom was so adament on not getting them anything (so we won’t get his parents anything either, lol).