What do we get a couple that had a small ceremony we weren't invited to?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@weatherbug:  My choice of wedding gift is never based on whether I was invited to the wedding or not.It is based on my reationship with the couple.

I would send a card and the same amount I would have given in other circumstances/

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would send a card with a gift certificate to one of their favorite restaurants.  Chances are they don’t need anything for their home, so I think a gift certificate is a nice way to show how happy you are for them and that you want them to enjoy married life.  In the card, I would also offer to take them out for celebratory drinks.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

A card and gift certificate to either a home store (like Pottery Barn) or a fancy restaurant.  CONGRATS TO THEM!!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@weatherbug:  Yes, if they are that close to you guys, I would get them what I normally would if I was invited.

Money, gift card to somewhere they can both enjoy. Ooooh (depending on your amount you choose to give) a gift certificate to a hotel chain is always gladly accepted in my experience.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@julies1949:  +1

DH and I gift $1,000 to all our close friends no matter what the circumstances,  although we haven’t had anynfriends forgo a traditional wedding.

For friends who are not as close, we gift $500 or buy something from their registry unless everything is too cheap.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

If they’ve been together for so long, and have a home together, I would assume that they dont need much as far as material goods go. I’d probably get them a gift card for a nice restaurant, or a voucher for some sort of activity that they like. Groupon is a good place to look for stuff like that.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@weatherbug:  Yeah, it is great!  That way, they can put it towards a vacation anywhere they choose! And of course, can use it for spa credit etc.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@Jessica_Rabbit:  Damn! I’m going to invite you to my wedding. $1,000??? Good for you girl 🙂

OP, I agree with the card and a gift card to a restaurant 🙂 I ccertainly wouldn’t gift the same as I would if I attended a wedding, just because, in my mind, the gift is partly an attempt to offset what they spent for me to attend the wedding. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I definitely like the gift card idea!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

I feel like a gift card for a restaurant would be more of a christmas/birthday gift.  A marriage is different, I’d get them a gift card to bed bath and beyond or crate&barrel, you always need/want something for your home whether it be kitchen items or decorating your home.

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