(Closed) What do you and the FI/DH fight most about ?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What causes you and your SO to fight the most?
    Money issues : (50 votes)
    23 %
    The opposite sex : (8 votes)
    4 %
    Friends : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Work related issues : (12 votes)
    6 %
    Sex : (30 votes)
    14 %
    Other ( Explain below) : (106 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Household chores.

    Post # 4
    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @aandmklover: Ditto.  Definitely housework.  New poll option?

    Post # 5
    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It is between sex (he wants it much more often than I do and I get upset about that) and listening. I get frustrated easier than he does and he does his best not to fight. I usually get upset first.

    Post # 6
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I can’t tell you the last time Fiance and I have really fought. We bicker pretty much constantly but thats not actual fighting and we’re always kidding. It’s rare when we don’t see eye to eye on something.

    ETA: Just remembered, the last time was well over a year ago when he didn’t stick up for me after his brother put me down in my own home (something I do NOT tolerate). I just locked myself in our bedroom until his brother left and then let him have it. He didn’t really say much since he knew he was wrong. Still pisses me off to this day.

    Post # 7
    59 posts
    Worker bee

    not very often, but a recurring issue is money. he wasn’t raised with good saving habits and struggles with controlling his spending. he has gotten a lot better, but its definitely still a challenge for us to work through.

    Post # 8
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We just fight when we are stressed out or really tired.  It is never about a big issue, we work through those- but if we are tired or stressed we might fight about something random that “feels” (at the time) like a larger issue. 

    Post # 9
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Politics and sex, but only when he is drunk.  He is being an ass right now because I would not argue politics with him and I wouldn’t have sex with him at 4 in the morning because it was my first day of my cycle and he was drunk (I was sober).  He is still moping as I type this.  Sometimes, everyone is ill behaved and it just takes a few days to figure that out.

    Post # 10
    11290 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We don’t fight alot but when we do it’s about his son as I sometimes disagree with the way things are done or perhaps an issue has been handled.

    Post # 11
    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Like a lot of other people we bicker good naturedly everyday, we’re both stubborn people who enjoy disagreeing about little things and butting heads. We agree on all big things and our stressors/triggers are all external. Right now we’re shacked up with my mom and sister so little privacy = annoyance, etc. When you remove other people’s issues from our life things are pretty darn good 🙂 

    Post # 12
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Like everyone else–splitting housework.  Though not as “serious” we get frustrated at each other over dinner.  It goes something like this: 

    Fiance:  What do you want for dinner?

    ME: I don’t care. You pick. 

    Fiance: I don’t care either.  Just pick anything you want. 

    ME: ugh, fine okay.  Italian

    Fiance: Well, anything but Italian. I’m not in the mood for that?

    ME: Dammit!  You said you didn’t care, but you do, so YOU pick

    Fiance: Well, I DONT care. except about Italian.  I don’t want Italian, so just pick something EXCEPT Italian


    Post # 13
    923 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted for other. We fight about inlaws and scheduling issues the most.

    Post # 14
    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Money and household chores, for me.

    Good question, I was wondering this same question a few weeks ago.

    Post # 15
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve actually gotten angry at him over something, but as far as I can remember, we’ve never honestly had a serious, real “fight.” Whenever an issue has come up, we talk about it (or I pout and avoid him until he makes me tell him what’s wrong and I cry about it and then start talking, haha) and come up with a solution. I know that sounds so PC and not like the real world or like most relationships, but we just really don’t fight. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with couples who do fight occasionally, of course.

    Post # 16
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Household Chores. As I type this, he is in our spare bedroom moping around because I yelled at him for not doing the chores he said he’d do..and on top of that he woke me up at 5am…on a Sunday…errrrrrrrr.

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