Post # 1
so my FI and I were discussing this morning the 5 top reasons to why people get a divorce…He then told me to share it on here and see what the responses would be.
Our top 5 reasons are
1- Cheating. ( DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHH).
2- Miscommunication ( when the couple from the beg of the relationship constnalty fight and/or dont know how to deal with one another often )
3- Emotional neglect
4- Sex lives going down down down the drain
and 5..God knows, I forgot.. 🙁 haha
So what do you and your SO think are the five major reasons…
Post # 3
#1 Cheating (sex life going down the drain could be a reason to cheat)
#2 Abuse, verbal and/or physical
#3 If there is an ex or kids from a previous relationship involved..i.e an ex wife
#4 Money issues
#5 When you aren’t in love
Post # 4
1. being unfaithful
2. money issues
4. mind changing on major issues (career, kids, travel, etc)
5. not putting each other first
Post # 5
Well from everything I have read it seems like fighting about money is the number 1 reason people in the US get divorced. The other 4 I think in no particular order are cheating, emotional neglect, break down of communication and expectations not met.
Post # 6
1. Lack of communication
2. Money issues
3. Lack of commitment
5. Abuse (physical, mental, emotional)
Post # 8
This isn’t 5 reasons – just one, but I will always remember that my mom’s friend told her when I was little that the reason she’d had a long and successful marriage was that she & her husband had never fallen “out of love” at the same time – meaning that it would be hard sometimes to keep “that loving feeling” going, cause life gets in the way or you’re cranky or bored or fighting or stressed, but one if not both of them was always there to support and stand strong for their marriage. Reading @bride2bejc:‘s #5 “when you aren’t in love” made me think of that… 🙂 Other than that? Beating (physically or emotionally), cheating, $, and growing apart/indifference.
Post # 9
4. Money issues
5. I can definitely see how neglect and/or abuse would be a huge factor in this, but a lot of times it still involves CHEATING.
I am scared to death of the D-word, and FI and I have talked a lot about how to prevent it. Pretty much the only thing that could lead to it for us would be cheating but I don’t think that will ever be a problem (at least, I hope to GOD it never will be!!!)
Post # 10
1. Trust is broken (cheating, lying, stealing, general pattern of dishonesty)
2. Abuse (mental, physical, emotional)
3. Shift in priorities (this would have to be pretty severe, but as soon as one person stops putting their family first in their life, it’s not going to work)
4. Disrespect (when you no longer respect the other person, lack of civility and compassion, no consideration and deny their needs emotionally, sexually, etc.)
5. Money (again, this would have to be pretty severe. Not talking in terms of not having enough, but if someone was hiding funds, secretly shopping for high priced items, running up debt, spending on themselves while the rest of the family’s needs are being neglected)
Post # 11
aww I hope it neverr everr happens!!! Youll be fine! As long as your strting to prevent it from now so youll be aware of the Do’s and donts!
Post # 12
A lot of psychologists say these four are the top reasons for divorce: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. Having been married once before, I can totally agree.
Post # 13
i can also agree with that too!
Post # 14
@MrsWrangler: I think this is so true! Something that I’ve always taken from my mom (my parents have been married for 33 years, together for over 40) is this: you don’t always have to like each other, as long as you always love each other.
Post # 15
@al1988: I think it’s called, appropriately enough, the Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse. lol
Post # 16
@KatyElle: hit the most important point, I think.
All of the things that have been listed before stem from a lack of respect for the other person or themselves.