Post # 1
I know that the rule is ‘no seeing the bride until she comes down the aisle.’
FI and I are okay with this (even though I want a first look shoot, but I’m okay!!)
However, someone has to set up our recpetion space the morning of, and instead of having just the girls and stressing out completely over time, I was going to get all of the girls and guys together around 6am and start setting up, then the girls will leave at 7 to get ready, and the guys will finish up.
This means FI will see me, technically, but not in my dress/makeup/anything special. Do you think this breaks any tradition? Or do you think that the rule more applies to seeing one another all dressed up?
Yes, I do know that this tradition came from when the Groom paid for the bride or what have you, and that he didn’t see her so he didn’t cancel the wedding, etc.
Post # 3
It does break tradition, as traditionally, the bride and groom spend the night and morning before the wedding apart, and don’t see each other.
But seriously, who cares about tradition? We’re spending the night before in the same hotel, and having dinner and drinks together, and haven’t ruled out spending the night together, then going our separate ways in the morning (I do want my dress, hair etc to be a suprise 🙂 )
Do whatever you want 🙂
Post # 4
Me and my hubby saw eachother the morning of. No biggie.
Post # 5
whats a “first look shoot”?
I think it’s a fine idea….If you all get together and get it done..it wil A: get done quickly and B: you get to set everything up the way you have thought it would look…
Post # 6
If that i what you want, then go for it. I don’t want fi to see me at all the monring of but that is our choice.
Post # 7
I think that the tradition is more for him not seeing you in your dress!
Post # 8
@russian_doll: A first look shoot are this trend that’s popped up where the bride and groom see one another before the ceremony with the photographer. You get some truly sweet reactions, and stuff like that. I know that when FI stands at the front he’s gonna be stonefaced cause he’s shy and quiet and doesn’t wanna show emotions, lol. If I had him alone, it would be different and he might even cry or something (doubtful, but he might!!…. but then so would I and ruin my makeup!!)
We are going to be spending the night apart in separate cities. Other than about an hour together that morning, most likely with toothpaste on my pimples and a white strip on my teeth and my hair in a bun on top of my head, we won’t see each other. I think I’ll look grungy enough that it won’t spoil anything LOL.
Post # 9
@Mrs.C.to.bee: What better way to start a marriage than with some good teamwork the morning of! I think it sounds like a great idea, even though technically it does break tradition (although so do first looks).
Post # 10
My FI has seen the dress already but the shoes are a big no go for me.
I think you should do what you feel happiess with tradtional or not. For me, my FI can see me and the dress but not the shoes and maybe not the flowers, but deffently not the shoes.
Post # 11
@ barbie86 – We are doing the exact same thing. We are staying in a hotel room the night before together, waking up together, maybe setting up reception together, then parting our own ways and getting ready. He can NOT see my Dress until the moment I walk down the aisle. (Although I kind of want the 1st look shot now that people have mentioned it)!
Our honeymoon will be held at our Brand new house (we have never lived together and are going to buy a house together RIGHT before the wedding…like a few weeks prior so we can start setting up the house so it is ready for the honeymoon so we will not be unpacking on our “honeymoon”).
Post # 12
I am barely doing anything traditional EXCEPT I do not want to see FI until I walk down that aisle…the night before he will spend with his BM at his parents home and I will have my family with me….the next morning we do have to do a set up so I want to arrange that us girls go in early morning to decorate and then at a specific time he and his BM etc can go in and set up the sound system and do sound checks etc…I dont know why I want it this way but its something I feel quite strongly about..
Post # 13
I dont think it’s a problem for you 2 to see each other, my concern is hte setting up at 6am part…. With everything going on, setting up the morning of seems like a really hectic plan, esp for the bridesmaids and yourself. Are there others who could do it besides the wedding party? Could you do it the day before?
Post # 14
well I did first look photos to give us more time to relax and be around friends. So I don’t see anything wrong with it
Post # 15
Yeah, do what you want!
H and I got ready together in the same hotel room. I had my hair/makeup/slip/bra on. Then he went outside to get photos. I slipped my gown on and then met him for a first look.
He has seen the gown on a hanger, saw me all dolled up but never all of set up together. And if he did see me all set up together, that’s no biggie too!
My husband and I walked ito the ceremony space (an outdoor space) together arm in arm. It’s actually a Swedish tradition for the B&G to do this. So none of that “seeing her for the first time down the aisle” stuff for us.
Post # 16
@Mrs.C.to.bee: Awww sounds like a good idea 🙂