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I just got back from a family Christmas event, and my mom has always called my dad's parents, Mom and Dad, but I could never imagine FI calling my parents anything other than there first names... and I could never call his parents Mom and Dad.
I did, however, manage to get through 2 years of dating him before calling them anything at all!
I KIND of avoid calling them anything bc I feel its awkward. But, I'm supposed to call them by their first names. I don't feel very weird about it with FI's step mom and step dad bc he calls them by their first names. The one I feel most awkward with is his mom. I could see at some point down the road maybe calling her mom.
I call his mom Ms. H (M's last name... ummm unfortunately it's not her last name because she was never married to his dad and no one had the heart to tell me 
, but i also don't have the heart to call her by her last name either)... M's dad died when he was 2 :( so I think she likes me calling him that. she calls me her daughter in law...
I grew up in a family that mostly used the in-laws first names so that's what I have always done. Even if my FILS were okay with me calling them mom and dad I would still feel weird about it because I don't feel comfortable with it. To me, my mom and dad are very special titles and FIs parents just aren't close enough to me for me to use them.
I call my FMIL by her first name after she asked me to, but FFIL still goes by Mr. M__. Kind of awkward, but it works out ok. I know he wouldn't mind me calling him by his first name, but I'll let him bring it up.
And FI calls my parents by their first names.
I think it's more awkward for me because his parents are like... two decades older than mine. so... yeah. i feel like i should be more respectful. lol.
I don't call my FI's mum anything...I cleverly avoid it. I call his dad Senor though I have absolutely no idea why. FI cleverly avoids calling my mum anything as well. We wait to be spoken to or we just start talking lol. To each their own!
We just had this discussion last week. I really want to call my FI's parents mum and dad but I don't think they are up for it. We aren't e xactly very close :( On the other hand, my mom has told my FI to call he is welcome to call her mum and he plans on doing so.
If I called FI's mom "mom", I think she would flip out :)
I use first names and always have.
When we first started dating (and were 16) I called her Mrs.C, but that changed to her first name about a year later. Her and his step-father I can't imagine calling anything but their first names. FI does the same for mine - we're family, but we each have our parents.
I use a combination of first names and "mom" or "dad" I call his mom "Momma Sandra" or just Sandra and his dad by his first name
Hehe, I have a particularly vivid memory when his grandmother told me what I should call them. It was right after we had announced our engagement and we (his mother, grandmother, and I) went shopping at the local outlets. His grandmother and I were in the store while his mother was trying on clothes and she said 'Now I want you to call me Mary and call her Jill. That's just how we do things in this family' And then someone else came out of the fitting room and called her friend (also named Jill) and it was so awkward and funny!
I've called them Mr. & Mrs last name, but am trying to get used to calling them by their first names before the wedding...
I call them by their first names. But I also avoided calling them anything for the longest time because I didn't know how I should address them!
I usually avoid calling them anything, but when I do, it's by their first names. LOL Funny, I kind of thought the avoiding calling them anything was just something I did. Guess not!!
I would never be able to call them mom and dad. I feel like, I only have one mom and one dad, and to try to call someone else by those names, well it just wouldn't work for me.
I've started using first names, but like others I avoided calling them anything for many years!
Well, when I met FI's parents for the first time, I'm almost positive that they told me to call them John and Jane (names have been changed to protect the innocent). FI calls my parents Mr. First Name and Mrs. First Name. Also, my FI's brother's girlfriend (did you follow all that?) addresses my FILs the same way, Mr. John and Mrs. Jane. Apparently, it's a Louisiana thing. Now, my future in-laws have started referring to each other as Mr. John and Mrs. Jane when talking to me. I think that's what I'm now supposed to call them, but it feels so awkward! I am sticking to my guns and what feels normal. I try to call his mom by Mama Jane and I'm like several others, I avoid addressing his dad unless there is impending catastrophe.
I thought I was the only person who was awkward about this! I call them by their first names but it makes me feel weird lol.
I call them the english equivalent of "auntie and uncle". It's a cultural thing to call anybody who is close to you, and is your parent's age.
probably gonna call them mom and dad...well nay (short for nanay) and tay (for tatay) meaning mom and dad in tagalog (filipino language)
I call my FIL's by their first names, we lived with them for a while so I'm very comfortable with them.
My guy avoids calling my parents anything outside of "Sir" and "Ma'am"!
I startedndating my Fi when i was 18 so I called them Mr. and Mrs Flavel for the first few years, however when I was a little older I felt weird doing this. so for another few years I avoided calling them anything. Now (9 years in) I amcomfortable calling them Frank and Di.
I call FMIL by her first name. It's just too weird calling them anything else - Mrs H is too formal, Mum is just ... weird.
Hahahahaha, we called eachother's parents Mr and Mrs Last Name for the longest time (probably around 2 years) before we changed to first names at their insisting. My parents call their parents-in-law by their first names though, so I think we'll stick with that.
My husband calls his parents by their first names, so there was never any question that I would too.
I kinda thought about calling them "mom" and "dad" but it just felt weird. I called them Mr. and Mrs. while we were dating and a couple of years ago, switched to first names. As of now, I'm calling them by their first names. I love them, but it just feels weird to call someone other than my mom "mom".
I call them by their first names. I asked FI's Mom what she preferred after she sent me an email and signed off "Love, Jane" and she told me anything I wanted. But it feels the best to address them by first names since they are both remarried and FI calls his step Mom and Dad by first names. So it's weird to call one spouse by first name and the other by Mrs. Blank.
I call his mom and dad and their spouses/SO's by their first names, but his grandparents are Grandpa or Grandma or Nana or PeePaw, lol.
I pretty much avoid calling my FILs anything. My FI calls them mom and dad and I feel odd calling them by first name because I'm so young, you know? I feel like its disrespectful. HOWEVER I see them so often and its usually us hanging out so I can't just be like "Hey Mrs. O can you pass me the ____" or "thanks for _______ Mr. O"
So I avoid it all together. FI plans on calling my mom "mom" and my dad "mike"
I grew up in a pretty informal culture, and we always called my parents' friends andother adults we knew (except teachers) by their first name. maybe that is why I have no problem wahtsoever calling them by their first names. Early on we asked what we should call them-- both sets of parents said the same thing, just to call them by their first name. No harm in just asking if you aren't quite sure!
I call his mom - momma malone and dad - pappa malone...took a while to get use to it though....lol
For the first few years I completely avoided calling them anything. But then slowly started using their first names...now its not awkward at all.
But since its Christmas on their gifts I write Mamma Jane and Papa John on their presents since they are from both my so and I...I also do this with my parents. This helps keep track of which gift is for which mom and pop.
Now I'm still trying to figure out what to call his grandparents. Mr. and Mrs. is to formal, but I feel weird using their first names or calling them Grandma and Grandpa Doe. So I've been varying among the last two until they tell me.
My FI's parents names are Jim and Kelli... I call them everything from that to Jim and Kel, to "The Futures," to Future Mom and Future Dad to FMIL and FFIL.
We're pretty close. I do call his mom more nicknames than his dad though!
I call my FI's parents by their first names. They told me to. At first it was Mr. I and/or Mrs. I but then it just felt odd. So I avoided calling them anything. It was a respect thing. I didn't feel right calling them ANYTHING. But that died down after a few months and it's all first name.
FI called my parents Mr. and Mrs. ____. Until my dad told him to call him by his first name. But my mom (she's a tough cookie sometimes) refused to 'allow' FI to call her by her first name. So he felt wicked uncomfortable and started to call her Dear! I almost fell off my rocker...and so did she. I don't think he realized he was doing it. I finally had to tell him enough. Since he's proposed, it's first name all the way.
Now on the other hand, my brother calls his wife's parents Mom and Dad. Truth be told, I love her parents to death, they like are family but they are NOT his mom and dad. It makes me cringe when I hear it. Worse yet, once when we were all together, he calls for Mom and they both answered. I thought my mom was going to cry!
Ahh! I hate worrying about what to call my in laws. When referring to them I say His mom, his dad. When talking to them I almost NEVER say anything.
It was ok when we were engaged and early on, but at Christmas this year it started to get really awkward because I have NO idea what to call them!
I think they would be ok with me calling them by their first names...but it's so uncomfortable for me having grown up my whole life to call people my parents' age Mr. and Mrs.
I hope someday to be comfortable enough to call them mom and dad without thinking about it. We have a long awkward road until we get there!
@LatteLove - I flat out asked them one day what they would prefer for me to call them but this was early on in our relationship. Can you just ask them?
when i talk to FMIL about FFIL, i call him "david's dad"... and vice versa. i haven't really had to call them directly by anything... or maybe i've just been good at getting around it.
funny, cuz the FI calls my parents umma (mom in korean) and appa (dad in korean)... lols :)
one day, im sure ill call them mom and dad.
I've known DH's parents for more than a decade, and we lived with them for a year, so I'm pretty comfortable calling them by their first names. I think they'd like it if I called them Mom and Dad, but I don't think I can change after all this time! I think I'll just take DH's friend's advice, and start calling them Grandma and Grandpa once we have kids. 
@okpharmbride I didn't know "Mr/Mrs First Name" was a Louisiana thing. Since we lived with them, I've picked up MIL's nickname for FIL: "Mr First Name." Every so often I slip up and call him that when I'm talking to someone outside DH's immediate family. People get very confused! We live in Canada, so no one calls their in laws that.
I pretty much avoid calling them anything. What really freaked me out is my FI told me I should be prepared for FMIL to tell me she loves me... like when getting off the phone and stuff. Not that I don't love her but... weird much??
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