(Closed) what do you call you In Laws?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you address your In Laws?
    Mr. and Mrs. Doe : (14 votes)
    8 %
    John and Jane : (118 votes)
    65 %
    Mom and Dad : (14 votes)
    8 %
    I cleverly avoid calling them anything! : (36 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I KIND of avoid calling them anything bc I feel its awkward. But, I’m supposed to call them by their first names. I don’t feel very weird about it with FI’s step mom and step dad bc he calls them by their first names. The one I feel most awkward with is his mom. I could see at some point down the road maybe calling her mom.

    Post # 4
    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I call his mom Ms. H (M’s last name… ummm unfortunately it’s not her last name because she was never married to his dad and no one had the heart to tell me Surprised, but i also don’t have the heart to call her by her last name either)… M’s dad died when he was 2 🙁 so I think she likes me calling him that.  she calls me her daughter in law…

    Post # 5
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I grew up in a family that mostly used the in-laws first names so that’s what I have always done.  Even if my FILS were okay with me calling them mom and dad I would still feel weird about it because I don’t feel comfortable with it.  To me, my mom and dad are very special titles and FIs parents just aren’t close enough to me for me to use them.

    Post # 6
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name after she asked me to, but Future Father-In-Law still goes by Mr. M__. Kind of awkward, but it works out ok. I know he wouldn’t mind me calling him by his first name, but I’ll let him bring it up.

    And Fiance calls my parents by their first names.

    I think it’s more awkward for me because his parents are like… two decades older than mine. so… yeah. i feel like i should be more respectful. lol.

    Post # 7
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t call my FI’s mum anything…I cleverly avoid it. I call his dad Senor though I have absolutely no idea why. Fiance cleverly avoids calling my mum anything as well. We wait to be spoken to or we just start talking lol. To each their own!

    Post # 8
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We just had this discussion last week. I really want to call my FI’s parents mum and dad but I don’t think they are up for it. We aren’t e xactly very close 🙁 On the other hand, my mom has told my Fiance to call he is welcome to call her mum and he plans on doing so. 

    Post # 9
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I called FI’s mom “mom”, I think she would flip out 🙂

    I use first names and always have.

    Post # 10
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    When we first started dating (and were 16) I called her Mrs.C, but that changed to her first name about a year later. Her and his step-father I can’t imagine calling anything but their first names. Fiance does the same for mine – we’re family, but we each have our parents. 

    Post # 11
    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I use a combination of first names and “mom” or “dad” I call his mom “Momma Sandra” or just Sandra and his dad by his first name

    Post # 12
    18645 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Hehe, I have a particularly vivid memory when his grandmother told me what I should call them.  It was right after we had announced our engagement and we (his mother, grandmother, and I) went shopping at the local outlets.  His grandmother and I were in the store while his mother was trying on clothes and she said ‘Now I want you to call me Mary and call her Jill.  That’s just how we do things in this family’  And then someone else came out of the fitting room and called her friend (also named Jill) and it was so awkward and funny!

    Post # 13
    3252 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I try to avoid these ppl all together.

    Post # 14
    824 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    I’ve called them Mr. & Mrs last name, but am trying to get used to calling them by their first names before the wedding…

    Post # 15
    2475 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I call them by their first names.  But I also avoided calling them anything for the longest time because I didn’t know how I should address them!

    Post # 16
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I usually avoid calling them anything, but when I do, it’s by their first names. LOL Funny, I kind of thought the avoiding calling them anything was just something I did. Guess not!!

    I would never be able to call them mom and dad. I feel like, I only have one mom and one dad, and to try to call someone else by those names, well it just wouldn’t work for me.

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