Post # 1
I am not a parent nor am I trying to become one anytime soon but I’m just curious as to what you call your husband/FI/SO around your kids? Personally, I think it Would be odd calling my lover “daddy” but it seems like everyone does this? Do you? Is it weird to you? Will you ever stop doing this if you do?
Please don’t judge me for asking. It’s something that’s just always confused me, ESPECIALLY because my FMIL still refers to her husband as “daddy” when FI is around.
Post # 2
When I am talking to DH directly I call him by his first name. When I speak to my kids about him I refer to him as Daddy.
Post # 3
I do the same thing. It’s always his first name, or “sweetie” if I’m talking to him directly, but it’s Dad or Daddy if I’m talking to his son.
Post # 4
eeniebeans: damarajade: thanks for your responses! Do you think you’ll stop doing this when your kids reach a certain age? Is it wrong that it kinda creeps me out when FMIL calls FFIL daddy, as FI is clearly an adult?
Post # 5
My cousin’s toddler started calling her “YIsa! YISA!” (her name is Lisa) because her husband was calling her Lisa instead of Mom. Since then they’v been trying hard to call each other Mom/Mommy or Dad/Daddy in front of the toddler.
Post # 6
FutureMrsHodgy: I think I’ll always say, “Dad is picking you up” or “Go ask your dad” when I’m talking to my kids when they’re older. My parents do the same thing. My mom oftentimes says “your father.” I just currently use “daddy” when talking to my stepson because he still uses it. I try to use “dad” more often. But my stepson always hears me call his dad by his first name when I need his attention for whatever reason.
Post # 7
FutureMrsHodgy: When I speak to my child (you doesn’t understand yet as he’s only 6 months), I say daddy. When I talk to my husband directly, it is his name or hon. But I will probably always say dad when talking to my son.
Post # 8
damarajade: My mother always said “your father” or “your dad” or whatever she never just said dad because that meant grandpa (her dad)
So it’s really odd to hear “let’s see what daddy’s doing” or stuff like that.
Post # 9
I think you have to refer to each other as Mom and Dad in front of the kids, because otherwise they won’t know what to call you. A friend of mine had the same issue but with the kids grandparents. The poor kid had no clue what to call his grandparents and got laughed at when he used their first names.
Post # 10
I call my spouse babe most of the same or some other nickname if I am talking to him, whether kids are with us at the time or not. Sometimes I use his first name.
But if I am talking to the kids about him I say daddy, your dad, father, etc. depending on the conext of the conversation. I will probably always do that. Cause even at 16 or 36 he will still be their dad. So I highly doubt I will ever say for example “Spouse first name and I are going to the store” when I am having a conversation to the kids cause that is just odd to me.
There was one time the kids ran around calling their dad babe because they thought it was more humorous than usual I suppose. Even on some picture for my spouse the kids wrote love you babe or something on purpose to mess with him. More recently they threatened to only call him by some random nickname I have for him just cause they thought it was hilarious. They are goofs!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I call him by his name. He is not my Dad. But when I speak to DS about DH, I will refer to him as “your Dad” or something like that.
Post # 12
When im talking directly to him i call him babe or his first name. when im talking to my son about my husband then i call him dad or daddy
Post # 13
Like most others, I call my DH his name when I am talking with him; I refer to him as “Daddy” or “your dad” when I refer o him to the kids. My mum still refers to my dad as “your dad” when she speaks with me about him, so I doubt I will refer to DH by name to my kids. Habits are hard to break.
However, we do not refer to one another as mom and dad outside of the kids. I have known some older generations of specific cultures to do this, but that was traditional to them when and where they grew up. Otherwise, I’ve never seen couples our age call one another mom or dad except to their children.
Post # 14
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
Scarlett11: Our best man’s son called his own mother “Honey” for nearly two years because of this. It got so awkward in public (“Honey, come wipe my butt!” “Honey, I want an ice cream.”) that they had to re-teach him to call her Mom!
No kids yet, so I’m not of much use here, OP. My mother would say “your dad/father” to us.
Post # 15
FutureMrsHodgy: I could see that, especially if that’s what you’re used to. I guess when I’m referring to my father, I say “my father” or “my dad,” even in conversations with my SO or stepson. But I’m sure I’ll say “grandpa” to my kids. I’m sure I’ll be differentiating more when we have kids of our own since it could get mixed up with my stepson and my biological children – however, my parents would never mind if he called them grandpa and grandma, as well.