Post # 1
Just curious how other bees address their future in-laws.
I am not sure what to call mine…up until now, I have been calling them Mr. and Mrs. LastName, so I feel funny switching to either first names or “Mom” and “Dad,” which is what my Fiance suggested (they said I could call them whatever I want, which is nice but not helpful).
Post # 3
I call them their first names, and I always have! I’m really close with them, but I cant see my self ever calling them Mom/Dad.
ETA: do whatever makes you feel comfortable!
Post # 5
I address my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name (his dad is hardly in the picture), and he does the same with my parents (although addmitedly it took YEARS for either of us to know what to do, we would just avoid using their names at all). I’ve never addressed my friends or even old bfs parents by anything other than their first names though so calling her Mrs. Future Mother-In-Law would be weird to me, haha. And I would NEVER call her mom…I have my own mother, thank you. I think that’s SUPER weird unless you happen to be an orphan, in which case it’s kinda sweet. Otherwise, no, lol.
Post # 6
momma Lough and dad Steve (both Fiance and his father ((and grandfather, ect..)) are named Steve)
his grandparents are just grandma and grandpa to me because I don’t have any. Aunts and uncles are by first name though
Post # 7
I call them by their first name, Future Mother-In-Law is also my business partner so I call her partner (in Portuguese) every once in a while.
Post # 8
well I knew them before Fiance and I got together since we all go to the same church where it is common for the younger adults to call the older ones Aunty-soandso or Uncle-soandso… well that has remained since we got together and it can be very awkward!!
Post # 9
First names, I never “got” calling anyone but my own parents Mum and Dad.
It would proabaly make them uncomforable too. We are all pretty realistic people.
Post # 10
Since we got engaged, I have just tried to avoid calling them anything…but that can only last so long. I feel like I need to choose something. It’s really helpful to see what other people do.
Post # 11
My mother in law has said I can just call her by her first name and I never even had the conversation with my father in law. He lives in a different state and him and my husband don’t have the closest of relationships so I actually almost never talk to him except when we go to visit, which is rare since we are basically broke. My father has said that my husband can call him by his first name, but as I don’t have such a close relationship with my dad either, it doesn’t come up so much for him to call him anything. We see my mom all the time and we live 5 min from her and she was really the parent that took my husband in as her son and really loves him as that. She has requested that he call her mom, and at first my husband thought it was a little awkward and I picked a fight with my mom about it because none of the other parents were requesting this, but I realize how important it is to her and so he really tries to call her that. (Both sets of parents are divorced.)
Post # 12
I call my Future Mother-In-Law by her first name, it’s what she insisted on right from the get-go. FI’s Dad passed away the year before Fiance and I met.
Although if I’m referring to her to my Fiance or his sisters/brothers, I say “your Mom”.
Post # 13
I call my FI’s father by his nickname and his step mother by her first name. His mother lives in a different state and is barely in contact so I have actually never really called her by anything. He calls my father by his first name and my mother “mom”.
Post # 14
First names. Same with Darling Husband and my parents. My dad’s started calling my mom by her first name when he’s talking to all of us kids, though. It’s really funny and my mom always yells at him for it! “I only have 6 people in the world that can call me mom and darn it… they’re gonna call me MOM!” 🙂
Post # 15
By their first names, that’s how they want it.
Post # 16
I call his parents by their first names for now, but that may or may not change after the wedding (IN 30 DAYS!!! SO EXCITED!!!) His sister says she’s excited about getting a sister and his mom said shes excited about getting another daughter. His nephews both call me Aunt K… I don’t really think of his family as my in-laws really. Love them to death!