What do you call your in-laws?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do you call your in-laws?
    Their name : (114 votes)
    80 %
    Mom/dad or something similar : (17 votes)
    12 %
    Something else : (11 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I will only have a FIL.  I will only be calling him by his name.  If he ever asked me to call him dad I think I would be incredibly outraged.  I already have a dad, thank you. I realize a lot of people do not share the same feelings as I do about this, but I feel like calling them “mom” or “dad”… this is disrespectful to my own parents.

     

    Post # 5
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    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I call them Mr. and Mrs. Last Name.

    If anything.  I don’t see them much and they avoid me.  So I think it’s appropriate.  (For reference, I am 24, FI is 28.)

    Post # 6
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    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I call my in-laws by their names, but that’s not to say that will ever change. Perhaps in 10 or 15 years, if we have a really strong daughter-in law relationship, I will call them some variation? Who knows!  

    I think calling your in-laws mom/dad were something the older generations did – I know my parents do it when referring to my grandparents. 

    Post # 7
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @mtbikelover:  I dont call my MIL/FIL anything.  I try to avoid at all costs to say their names.  Why? Because I have no idea what to call them. I tried to follow their lead and see what they call eachother when talking to me…but it changes from their first names to Mr & Mrs LastName.  Its very awkward.  I told my mom about this and she got fired up and told me to call them by their first names and not by Mr. and Mrs. 

    I am not/would never be comfortable calling them Mom & Dad.

    My DH calls my parents Mama & Dad.

    Post # 8
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I call them by their names. I would feel very awkward calling them mom & dad.

     

    Post # 9
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsBaldEagle:  haha. When my DH and I first started dating I had no idea what to call his parents. I thought Mr. and Mrs. Lastname was way too formal, but just their first names was too casual. So I didn’t call them anything. I would just talk in their direction and hope they realized I was addressing them hahaha.

    Post # 10
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    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I use their first names – I have a friend who calls her MIL mom and it seems weird to me!

    Post # 11
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I call them by their first names. I call FI’s grandmother Grandma though. It felt very awkward calling her Mrs. Lastname or Firstname, don’t know why Grandma was so much easier.

    Post # 12
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    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @mtbikelover:  I lost my dad a few years ago (prior to meeting FI) and i agree, i have my own parents. They were the people that raised me to be who I am today, the poeple that make up my genetics. I absolutely love my FIL but he is not my dad. And well, MIL is another story all together. I call them by their first names because that is who they are to me.

    Post # 13
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    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsBaldEagle:  same here. i just wait until i catch their attention to say something to them, haha.

    i think if i had to call them anything i would just call them senora juana and senor juan. we’re mexican and they don’t speak english.

    Post # 14
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    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    First names. He calls mine by their first names as well.

    Post # 15
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    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Mumma and Pops

    Post # 16
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    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    They insist on “Mammy” and “Daddy”, it is a cultural thing with them and hugely insulting if I don’t. Honestly, at first it was very uncomfortable and I was not OK with it, but I didn’t want to risk ruining or tarnishing the relationship so I suck it up and do it.

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