Post # 1
Do you call your in laws by their name or do you refer to them as your mom/dad?
Just curious because I call mine by their name but they have told me before they would love it if I called them mom and dad. That just seems odd to me but I know lots of people do it. I love them a lot and we have a great relationship so that has nothing to do with why it feels odd to me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I will only have a FIL. I will only be calling him by his name. If he ever asked me to call him dad I think I would be incredibly outraged. I already have a dad, thank you. I realize a lot of people do not share the same feelings as I do about this, but I feel like calling them “mom” or “dad”… this is disrespectful to my own parents.
Post # 4
@LMD: I think that is part of why I am hesitant to call them mom/dad. My dad passed away earlier this year and I feel that it would be disrespectful to call my FIL dad. Plus, I think it might hurt my mom to hear me calling someone else dad.
Post # 5
I call them Mr. and Mrs. Last Name.
If anything. I don’t see them much and they avoid me. So I think it’s appropriate. (For reference, I am 24, FI is 28.)
Post # 6
I call my in-laws by their names, but that’s not to say that will ever change. Perhaps in 10 or 15 years, if we have a really strong daughter-in law relationship, I will call them some variation? Who knows!
I think calling your in-laws mom/dad were something the older generations did – I know my parents do it when referring to my grandparents.
Post # 7
@mtbikelover: I dont call my MIL/FIL anything. I try to avoid at all costs to say their names. Why? Because I have no idea what to call them. I tried to follow their lead and see what they call eachother when talking to me…but it changes from their first names to Mr & Mrs LastName. Its very awkward. I told my mom about this and she got fired up and told me to call them by their first names and not by Mr. and Mrs.
I am not/would never be comfortable calling them Mom & Dad.
My DH calls my parents Mama & Dad.
Post # 8
I call them by their names. I would feel very awkward calling them mom & dad.
Post # 9
@MrsBaldEagle: haha. When my DH and I first started dating I had no idea what to call his parents. I thought Mr. and Mrs. Lastname was way too formal, but just their first names was too casual. So I didn’t call them anything. I would just talk in their direction and hope they realized I was addressing them hahaha.
Post # 10
I use their first names – I have a friend who calls her MIL mom and it seems weird to me!
Post # 11
I call them by their first names. I call FI’s grandmother Grandma though. It felt very awkward calling her Mrs. Lastname or Firstname, don’t know why Grandma was so much easier.
Post # 12
@mtbikelover: I lost my dad a few years ago (prior to meeting FI) and i agree, i have my own parents. They were the people that raised me to be who I am today, the poeple that make up my genetics. I absolutely love my FIL but he is not my dad. And well, MIL is another story all together. I call them by their first names because that is who they are to me.
Post # 13
@MrsBaldEagle: same here. i just wait until i catch their attention to say something to them, haha.
i think if i had to call them anything i would just call them senora juana and senor juan. we’re mexican and they don’t speak english.
Post # 14
First names. He calls mine by their first names as well.
Post # 16
They insist on “Mammy” and “Daddy”, it is a cultural thing with them and hugely insulting if I don’t. Honestly, at first it was very uncomfortable and I was not OK with it, but I didn’t want to risk ruining or tarnishing the relationship so I suck it up and do it.