(Closed) What do you consider an LDR?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll:
    less than 100 miles : (5 votes)
    12 %
    100+ miles : (14 votes)
    33 %
    250-+ miles : (14 votes)
    33 %
    500 + miles : (4 votes)
    10 %
    1,000+ miles : (1 votes)
    2 %
    1,500+ miles : (2 votes)
    5 %
    other and I'll explain below : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The UK is only little by comparison to most coutnries, so it’s not really that possible to be more than a day away from somebody (unless they are obviously overseas).

    If you scrape work and life out of the way, anything that takes you more than 45 minutes in the car to me is LDR! Or if you have to venture on a motorway for more than 2 junctions 😉 hehehe. Anything just inconvenient enough that it would make popping round for some together time a hassle.

    It takes 2 hours to get to him, he’s 88 miles away apparently. I have to travel half an hour to get to the train station, get a train that takes an hour and 20 without a change, or 1.5hours with a change, then 20 minutes from the station with him to his house. Add into that waiting for a train to come at a convenient time…. urgh

    I have only just acquired some wheels. Not been on a motorway in 4 yrs and even then that was straight after my test….I’m a very nervous driver, so I’m not keen right now to jump into the car on my own in the dark on roads i’ve not driven on before. But i’ll get there, national rail are driving me nutty with their trains.

    Post # 4
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    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Distance doesn’t always dictate how often a couple can get together; I know some of the girls on here don’t live hundreds of miles from their SOs but consider themselves in LDRs, because their schedules prevent them from seeing each other often.

    I don’t think it’s fair to say someone’s relationship isn’t long distance just because it’s not AS long of distance. It’s still difficult!

    Post # 5
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    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, what daydreamwanderer said! I’m very lucky, I see him every weekend, but if there is a friends hen do on a saturday night or if all my friends decide to have a get together (same for him), that’s it, I won’t see him for a fortnight. We have one day off a week that is the same (sunday) if anything interferes on a saturday (our travel time) then that’s it. Longest has been 4 weeks, which I appreciate isn’t much compared to other couples, but it doesn’t stop me savouring every moment any less.

    Post # 6
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    What daydream said. If the distance is enough to prohibit you from seeing each other more than once a week, I’d consider it LDR.

    Post # 7
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    We were about 2 hours away and I definitely considered us long distance, but it’s kind of like daydream said – we couldn’t see each other often because we were both in school, so it wasn’t really possible for us to see each other more than once or twice a month…so I’d definitely consider that long distance.

    Post # 8
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    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    to be honest, i was annoyed when a friend of mine compared my ldr, cali/michigan, to hers: she was merely 1.5 hours DRIVING from her guy. i say if it takes a bit of coordination or travel time you can consider it an ldr.

    Post # 9
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    990 posts
    Busy bee

    At about an hour away from eachother I consider CW and I in an LDR. Yes, this might anger people, but do you know how frustrating it is when your schedules don’t match up, you don’t live together, and you’re lucky if you get to spend a day with your SO? It sucks. I’ve had longer distance relationships in the past and I can’t say I prefer one over the other … but long distance can be simply defined individually …

    Post # 10
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    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d say it all depends.  We’re 1 hour away, but our schedules do not allow for visits without overnight stays.  If I drive to him and we go out on a date; it is totally not good (or safe) for me to leave and drive the hour home.  The road I’d have to take is pretty dark and only two lanes.  So, it all depends.  I consider us to have  LDR.  We don’t get to see each other during the week and it seems we only see each other every other weekend.  Unless of course his ex has the kids and he can stay the night with me and then commute to work (which sucks).  So, it all depends. 

    Post # 11
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    34 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think it really depends on the situation.  We are about 100 miles apart, but we are both graduate students and so we see each other about every other weekend.  It is my absolute pet peeve when people say “Oh, only 100 miles?  That’s not bad at all!”  Because, let’s face it ladies, any distance at all is too far when you want to be together every day.

    Post # 12
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    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m not sure about miles, but I think that anything over maybe 3 hours driving would be long distance. My FI and I are about a 10 hour drive and definitely long distance.

    Post # 13
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I agree that an LDR depends on how often you see the person. I also agree that it is an LDR if it requires an overnight stay.

    I see my DF about once every 4 months.

    Post # 14
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    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Hubby and I were 2500 miles apart for awhile (4 years), so I was one of the jealous folks at people who were only an hour or two away from each other. yes, it’s long and hard even that far away when schedules clash, but when you’re not even in the same time zone as each other and only see each other like max, 4 times a  year for a week at most, it just sucks major and I’d trade anyone for that hour drive.

    Post # 15
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    5399 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My BIL has a girlfriend that he sees about every other weekend because they live 4 hours apart, so I would consider them a LDR.  The way I look at it is that if it’s not really possible to see each other on a daily basis, then it’s probably a LDR. 

    Post # 16
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    FH and I are currently about 5,500 miles apart..phew… which is about a 15 hour plane ride.  Believe it or not, we always say, “It could be worse!”

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