(Closed) what do you consider cheating

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I consider it anything shady you wouldnt want your SO/FI/spouse to know about.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep, I echo the PPs… if you don’t want me to know about it, then you shouldn’t be doing it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Anything you feel you would need to hide from your spouse. Porn is not cheating at all in my opinion but texting/phone sex/web cam stuff is. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow! I thought I was conservative, but it seems like we all agree!

If you don’t want your FI to know, it’s bad.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If you have to keep it secret from your SO, it’s cheating.  Depending on your relationship, that boundary will move from couple to couple.  In my relationship, watching porn or reading erotic literature is ok.  We each do it privately, but the other is aware that it happens on occaasion.  Interacting with another person in an intimate way is not.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, anything you have to lie about or hide is cheating.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@adoc86:  +1

and not just what you have to hide, it’s what you want to hide or lie about too!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I consider cheating physical, sexual contact with someone else, as well as, how do I put this, “emotional” chemistry with someone else. (Does that make sense?! Lol)

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Rubbs:  +1, same here

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mrsedwardslpn:  +1

 

often the most terrible part about being cheated on is the feeling of betrayal.  so in my opinon, even if they are hiding things like watching porn.,  its not  “cheating” in the nominal sense,   but its  him getting off to something other than you behind your back and lying about it ,etc…  its still that sense of betrayal.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@laekna:  +1. I might not call it cheating but I would treat it as such.

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