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What do you consider too risque for engagement pictures?

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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    I was browsing various photographer blogs and it made me curious what do people consider risque as far as poses and what they would feel comfortable showing their friends and family? For example, I found one set on a blog where the rest of the pictures are done great but the boob grab (though probably not initially intended to come across that way) seemed quite awkward. Have you come across anything like this while browsing photography sites or blogs that lead you to wonder how comfortable parents and grandparents, etc would be seeing such poses. Not to say that anyone is a prude but there is a time and place for everything and some things just aren't meant to be shared with just anyone.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    A boob grab isn't my thing, but maybe they were just joking or it just ended up looking awkward. There are lots of awkward poses that photographers do (in one, I'm "holding" DH in the palm of my hand--he's standing like 20 feet to my left. It's weird and I hate it)....but in the end, if you don't want that pose, you can always say no.

    I can't say I always like those super sexy photos of couples climbing over each other or wet in the ocean laying on top of each other...it's not for me. I couldn't do that and be all sexy in our engagement photos then share them with family. I'd feel like I was inviting them into our bedroom =-]. Not to mention I'd probably knee him somewhere on accident in my futile attempt to look sexy on camera.

    Then again, I showed my mom and a lot of strangers on weddingbee my boudoir photos, so who am I to talk? =].

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    Yeah, I've seen a few engagement photos that were just...too much! I'm all about being lovey and kissing in the photos, etc. but I've seen a few that were kind of just gross.

     
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    doozi    7.17.2010   New Orleans, LA

    As long as it is tasteful, I don't see why not. I compare it to artistic nudity. Now, total make-out or half dressed pics with a lot of near sex pics is different. It's all in the way it's done.

     
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    catlady    June 26, 2010   Toronto

    I don't mind seeing engagement pics when the couple's on a beach posing seductively but I can't see us posing like that.  There's one pic in particular where the quality of the photo was unbelievable (the lighting, the wave crashing on the couple....perfect).  It's a bit much for an engagment shoot.  Sometimes it's easy to forget you're at an engagement shoot and not a shoot for the latest magazine ad...but to each their own.

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    FH and I had a few kissy shots, and one shot with his hands kind of on my butt, but that was as risque as we would go.  I don't think either of us would be comfortable taking our clothes off in front of other people, lol.  No shots of us rolling around in the surf!

     
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    mallorynjmf       Louisville, KY wedding in Vero Beach,FL

    I havent gotten e-pics made yet but if I do and my photographer wanted to do some "not basic" poses I would probably just keep those for only us to see and keep, and show only who Id want too... but not for STDs or anything..

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I think those might be cute in the right setting (i.e. beach), but I probably would choose a more conservative pose for anything that most/all guests will see, like STDs, guestbook, reception decor, etc

     
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    sf_carrie       San Francisco

    While we're very affectionate, we definitely lean towards the more conservative side when with family (ie no kissing -- at most, a hug or brief hand-holding) and I suspect the pictures we share with them will be in keeping with that.  I do think there are a lot of tasteful, beautiful photos that go further than that many photographers take, it's just that I wouldn't personally share those with anyone else. 

     
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    ashley1104    11/06/10   Chattanooga, TN

    I think it depends on the people. Some people just look natural doing somethings while others look completely uncomfortable and awkward! I myself would like to be one of those natural lookers but am more than definitely not! I'm hoping I can rememdy this before my engagement shoot! I found this while looking through my photographers site. These 2 are definitely naturals! Make sure to keep watching past the first few! Go to GALLERIES, DEREK AND NATALIA http://charisphotography.net/index2.php?ver=v1

     
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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    yeah, we will definitely NOT be doing sexy photos. like ejs said, "I couldn't do that and be all sexy in our engagement photos then share them with family. I'd feel like I was inviting them into our bedroom".  we'll stick to cute stuff like handholding and a peck on the cheek or maybe lips, but definitely no horizontal-ness, no rolling on the ground, no butt, boob, or crotch grabbing, no making out in a shower, waterfall, the ocean, a lake, no looking like we're in the process of tearing off our clothes to do the dirty.

    believe me, we are plenty sensual in private, but his granny doesn't need to know about that via our engagement pics.

    and ashley...i went to that website without even looking at which gallery you instructed us to go to and immediately picked out natalia and derek's.  can those possibly be their e-pics?? #45 seriously looks like they might be having sex.  even if they didn't show that to mom, it's now on the internet for the world to see! i mean, the pictures are gorgeous, sexy, and natural, and the couple is crazy hot, but it looks more like a sexy photo shoot than engagement photos that they sent to extended family. that's kind of hard to believe. but to each his own, i guess!

     
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    ashley1104    11/06/10   Chattanooga, TN

    my thoughts exactly! those are def their e-pics, crazy huh?!

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    Funny you bring this up, because out our engagment shoot we were told to hold a sexy look pose and instead I look mad, so much for that.  But there were some I saw prior to our shoot that I absolutely knew we wouldn't be able to pull off out of shyness.  Those pics mostly were couples laying on top of another kissing and looking very passionate.  I can't kiss like that in public let alone in front of a camera. 

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    This is an interesting question! FI and I don't even have an e-pic where we are kissing on the lips - mostly just holding hands, kissing cheeks or leaning in towards each other. It's pretty popular for couples to kiss in all their e-pics, but for me i felt weird about that. It's not even about the PDA as much as I would rather look at pics of our smiling faces than us smooching!

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    I rely on my couples to push it however far they want. For Instance, I have a shot where the guy is lying on the train tracks, she's lying on top of him, and they're making out... She suggested it, and while euber steamy it's pretty much a hit :-) Including with parents.... mainly because they love to see the love their kids have... unlike their photos which were taken in their living room, straight faced.

    I'm also based at a beach so in-evitably couples get wet and kiss.  Once you're wet, the slightest and most tame of kisses looks ten levels more passionate.  I also ask my couples on the beach before anyone lays down while near the water, etc...

     

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    First of all, we're going to do a ton of photos when we get to our destination wedding before and after the wedding (we're going to hang there a few days with our friends!).

    We can kiss and be lovey dovey, but no sexy sexy.  Not us.  If he wants sexy it'll be in a private budoir shoot or something like that.

    I think a "grab" like that is imho inappropriate.

    Imho, if you can't show the pics to your parents or coworkers, then something is wrong.  (Still standing on soapbox for one more comment) A wedding is a solemn vow.  It's sacred.  Why announce to the world something far less than that about your committment to each other?  

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Ooooh, I should add I never condone boob grabbing or butt grabbing.. or anything of the sort.  And, if it happens spontaneously that's one moment I typically won't shoot or proof. That's just tasteless.  But, I think something has to be said for sexy photos with your FI... 

    This photo is from back in 2007, but shows how something really tame... with the mere addition of water turns steamy fast!

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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    ahhh i totally feel the same way! I see some and I'm like... n o one needs to see this. I saw one where the guy and girl were kissing under her shirt. Like she had it lifted over both of them. Sorry but the aunts and uncles do NOT need this.

    There is a fine line between cute and cut it out.

     

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