Post # 1
When you’re just not excited anymore?
I’m not interested in wedding planning in the least. We’re getting married in July, and I’ve lost all motivation/interest in plans. I remember when we first got engaged, I was so excited; I couldn’t wait for the next issue of Martha Stewart Weddings, I ate up every new post on WeddingBee, I bookmarked about a million wedding related blogs and pages….I even started looking at TheBump and watching A Baby STory, all excited to start a family and put down roots.
I’m not stressed about it, or overwhelmed, I’m just very apathetic.
It sucks. I’m not sure what to do. I don’t feel the least like a blushing bride or like we’re two almost newlyweds embarking on an exciting life together. More like we’re in for more of the same.
Maybe it’s cold feet? I’m trying not to read too deeply into it…
Anyone feeling like your wedding and future is leaving you a little cold?
Post # 3
Nah you are probably burned out on weddings. If I were you I would just give wedding thoughts a rest until the new year. You have plenty of time to plan, we got ours done in less than five months, start to finish.
I wouldn’t worry about it. I planned hard core for about 3 months and then I was soooo over it. My husband took over in the month leading up to the wedding, thank goodness!
Post # 4
Take a month off! It really helps. I know I had to do it cuz i was getting burnt out on the wedding.
“more of the same”….are you talking about your relationship? Is it possible you are not excited b/c your life seems boring now and monotanous?
Post # 5
There was one point in my wedding planning process where I was just so over it. I didn’t want to plan anything, choose any other decorations, make anything, nothing! I was done with it. I took a few weeks off and stepped back from it all. The break was really nice and it felt good to just focus on being me for a while and not me planning a wedding 24/7.
I guess you need to ask yourself if you are turned off from the wedding stuff or turned off from your FI. Wedding planning is not for everybody. I would look past the wedding and as long as you are with who you really want to be with, then I don’t think what you’re feeling is anything to be concerned of. You have a ways to go before the big day so be unweddingish for a while, enjoy the holidays, and see how you feel next month.
Post # 6
Oh I think that happens to most of us at some point. Just ride it out – don’t worry, you will get excited as the time gets closer.
Post # 7
I would say definitely take a month off (if you can afford to without missing major deadlines) and pick it up with a new fresh perspective in the new year!
Post # 8
This definitely happened to me as well. Right around the 6 months til the wedding mark, I got very indifferent towards things. Just take a step back from the planning for a while. You’ll find that you miss it and start to get excited again!
Post # 9
We got engaged in May and I was on a ROLL until about September. Then I was like – eh. Everytime people asked me how the wedding planning was going during Sept-Oct I had to reply – it’s not. And not in bad way, I just wasn’t really into it. I still read websites and thought about it but not as voraciously. It was good to take that break even if I didn’t plan it, it just happened. Now we have about 4 months to go and there’s a decent to-do list and time to get it done. I don’t think it means you’re having cold feet but give yourself a break and see how you feel afterwards. You still have tons of time for the active planning!
Post # 10
This definitely happened to me- and about a month later I became more excited than ever
Post # 11
Definitely take some time off. I went through a very long ‘down’ period with planning since we got engaged last NYE, and once the venues, photogs, band, etc. were booked there was nothing to do. When it gets closer and you have to make a bunch of decisions it will be different.
Post # 12
This happened to me also, briefly but I had to power thru because I only had 11 months to plan the wedding. I’m also kind of over it now, delaying picking out songs for the videographer and picking out photos.
Post # 13
i agree with the others, i get bored sometimes and take time off. then when i get back to it again it’s always exciting when we do something new for the wedding.
Post # 14
I agree, there was a point when thinking and breathing wedding just made me exhausted and I was sick of it all. Take some time off. Focus on your relationship and what you’re looking forward to afterwards.
Post # 15
This happens to most brides. To me, it happened several times during our 14-month engagement (which I’ve since decided was too long).
I agree with others. Take some time off and don’t talk about wedding stuff unless you want to. There was a point last summer where we were both so tired of wedding planning, we packed up the car and took a long weekend outside the city in a beach town to clear our heads spur-of-the-moment. I didn’t bring any wedding stuff or magazines with me, and it was awesome. We didn’t do anything but lay on the beach all day, eat picnics and sleep. We reconnected and when we got back, I was ready to tackle wedding projects again. All we needed was a few days to step away from life and recharge. It usually doesn’t mean you’re having cold feet.
Post # 16
I can definitely say this has happened… or more truthfully is happening to me. We hit our “engagement anniversary” this past Friday. I know people have super long engagements and I shouldn’t be unexcited quite yet, but I just can’t help it. Lately I’m thinking the excitement is fading because we’ve lived together for a year and half already…. so the whole “starting our life together” thing isn’t really as applicable for us. We kind of started our lives together a while ago… anyone else?