Post # 1
I have never been to a bridal shower before. What exactly do you do, who do you invite, where do you have it, what is its purpose?
My BMs and mom want to throw me one and I am feeling kinda leery about it.
Also – we are having a destination wedding (Dominican) so I feel sorta bad taking gifts.
Anything is helpful.
Post # 3
The showers are traditionally about getting the women in your life together to celebrate your marriage and “shower” you with gifts.
You could say on the invitation that instead of receiving gifts, youd rather have a recipe-swap theme or something like that-
It’ll be fun!
Post # 4
You eat, mingle, sometimes play games, have some cake and open gifts!
Post # 5
Who do you invite – usually? is it ok to have it small or do people get offended?
Ie – just mom siblings MIL, or is it a whole female family shebang?
Post # 6
@merryme: you can choose how big or small you want it- im having 2 showers, one with a very small group and one with 80 women!
Have as many guests as you and your hosts prefer- just make sure whoever is invited is at the same “level” of closeness and you aren’t leaving people out. 🙂
Post # 7
Bridal showers kind of run the gamut. I’ve been to one extremely informal one with only five ladies present (including the bride), all just friends, where we just hung out, ate some snacks, and then made a dress for the bride out of toilet paper (which was hilariously awesome). I went to another one a week ago for my MOH that had about sixty ladies of all ages there, and the people ranged from my old high school principal (eek!) to the bride’s family to a few of her friends. Everyone was really dressed up, and it was mostly just chatting and food before the bride opened all the presents. Showers can be anything, really, so long as it’s a group of women showering the bride with gifts.
Post # 8
What you do – eat, play shower games, watch the bride open her gifts.
Who you invite – The bride’s family and close friends. A shower is by definition a gift-centered event, so anyone invited to the shower must also be invited to attend the wedding.
Where you have it – usually in someone’s home, but can also be at a restaurant, park, etc. depending on the hosts’ budget and the size of the crowd.
The purpose – to shower the bride-to-be with gifts for married life. Some showers are themed (lingerie, kitchen, stock the bar, etc.); others have no theme and guests choose gifts on their own or off the wedding registry.
Post # 9
I just had mine a couple weekends ago at a restaurant function room. It was a surprise, so when we got there we went around to each table of guests to say hello while they were snacking on appetizers. Every woman who is invited to the wedding was invited to the shower. We then had brunch, and my bridesmaids had everyone play a little trivia game about FI & I. We then went straight into opening gifts (all purchased off our registry). During this time you usually have 1 bridesmaid help you by handing the gifts off, one to write down each person’s name and corresponding gift for thank you notes, and one to take all the ribbons/bows off the gifts and make you your “bow bouquet” to practice at your rehearsal with. By the end of that, people tend to start saying their goodbyes. We talked with everyone as they left and then began the fun process of loading up the car with all the gifts!
We did not have a gift theme, but had an overall “theme” for decorations, which was bright flowers (perfectly describes me!) Each table had a solid color balloon centerpiece, and at each person’s place setting there was a matching color bud vase with a matching color flower in it (these were the favors that the guests could take home).