Post # 1
My FIL (future-in-laws…can we make that happen?) want to have a second reception in the state where my fiance is from and where we live. We’re having the actual wedding in the town I grew up in Texas next month.
1) What do you do at a second reception? Is it really just like a wedding reception? Dancing? Toasts?
I am hoping that they’re willing to do the entire thing, because I started poking around Pinterest looking at decoration inspiration and felt like I was starting all over!!!
Post # 3
I would say a 2nd reception would be more informal than the first one.
Post # 4
I’m having a “2nd” reception after my DW reception. It will be more on the casual side, I will not be wearing a wedding dress (but probably a white cocktail dress). There will be food (maybe only apps) and cocktails, there will be a DJ (or band), probably a photobooth, games like bags (i think some people call this “cornhole”) and just fun things. I’ll probably have some toasts and maybe some cake that I can cut. I will also probably ahve some wedding footage becuse 90% of the guests would not hve gone to the wedding
Post # 5
@april13th: FYI FIL is already much happening on the bee. I believe if there is an acronym for something, it is being used on here lol.
I think having a second reception is a good idea for people who are too far to go to the first one. Maybe a more casual one with appies, drinks, dancing. Another chance to wear your dress! Or you could wear a different, casual white dress. You can probably skip the favors too. Maybe rent a photo booth for fun if it’s in your budget.
Post # 6
I would call it a “celebration” instead of a second reception!
And I would suggest a cute cocktail dress (maybe a white one or a blue one).
Are your in-laws offering to pay? If they are, they get to plan it!
So it’s sort of like a rehearsal dinner, but possibly with dancing?
Post # 7
A Second Reception… can be sooo many things… as there is no real RULES… it can be sort of a Back Home Reception (in that you’ll be holding it “back Home” in his town)… a simple Open House or Meet & Greet (come out and meet Mr. & Mrs. April… aka, “the lovely gal my Son married”)… or a full-blown Second Wedding Reception with all the trimmings… either mimicking your original one… or slightly different in style.
So it really is up to you and the Inlaws to decide how they want to do this (IF they are paying… then I think the old saying… He Who Pays Gets The Most Say… is probably relative / a good guideline on what to expect)
So… I guess beyond who’s funding it… the next important Question is what would you & your Hubby like it to be ?
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Mr TTR and I Eloped to a Destination Wedding (just the 2 of us). Once home after our Honeymoon, we orgnized a Back Home Reception for Friends & Family (at everyone’s insistance more than anything else… so I felt it was the right thing to do). It was an evening affair (after 8) and fairly laid back & casual (no Wedding Attire for us). We served Welcome Cocktails & Hors d’ouevres, Champagne & Cake… which we ceremoniously cut. As well as a DJ & Dancing into the wee hours (Mr TTR and I danced a first dance… to get the party rolling).
It was a ton of fun !!
And we are both glad we held the party.
Post # 8
I’m having a 2nd Reception and I’m planning it to be WAY more casual and laid back fun then my “real” reception. I’m going to rent a park pavilion for around $200, get a whole bunch of ribs and hot dogs and burgers to grill up that day, bring pulled pork and sides… cheap beer, boxed wine, sodas, a boombox and a whole bunch of hanging out with my peeps will round out my day.
I do plan on wearing a cute white dress with a white birdcage veil to get in “the groove”…. I figure we can have some games going on and just chill and relax with 200 of our closest friends 🙂
But the 2nd Reception can be whatever YOU want it to be!! I’ve heard of girls doing it up like a real reception or making it more casual. Its all about what floats your boat while you party with everyone else!
Post # 9
Thanks for your advice! I *think* we are going to do a brunch in his church fellowship hall.
Post # 9
Doesn’t “FIL” already stand for Father-in-law?
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA
we are doing the exact same thing! We’re going with catered bbq, repeating the speeches from the wedding and maybe “first” dance (I don’t want to do that part but the moms do)
have you gotten any snide comments about your plans? I havent in my real life but have gotten some snooty messages on here
nice to see other couples doimg similar things go us 🙂