- 5 years ago
Hi guys, lovely to meet you. I’m a long time lurker but first time poster!
I have a dilemma.
My SO and I are both easy-going liberal muslims born and raised in England, we are of Pakistani and Bengali origin respectively. We’ll inshallah be getting married in Autumn 2013.
Now the problem is that we can’t figure out what happens at a Walima! Neither of us (or our parents) have been to many weddings, and they’re always lavish grand affairs which we find too much. We intend to have a Nikkah after Jumma prayer on Friday, and then Saturday for the Walima, but other than sitting down for a meal, what happens?
I’d love to hear from other lovely muslim ladies about what they did or what they’ve seen at Walimas.
The walima is the first time the guest will see the bride and groom in all their wedding finery. How does that work? Does the bride walk down an aisle towards the groom, like in a church wedding? Do you publically exchange rings or vows, despite having the nikkah beforehand? Is there a speech, and if so, who does that? What kind of entertainment is there beyond a meal? If there are bridesmaids, what do they do? Where do they fit in a walima?
I just feel that after going to all the effort of inviting a bunch of guests, wearing beautiful clothes, decorating a lovely venue… it seems a shame to just sit and eat. Surely there is something else that I’m missing!
Help much appreciated!