What do you do for international RSVP postage?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i do think its a bit rude, and if you did that i wouldnt expect an rsvp back for those who you did not provide a stamp for. i would just buy stamps for those out of the country and i believe its 3 stamps (thats what the post office here told us for our family who are in the military and live off base, one in germany and one in japan.. but luckily they still had their APO addresses so we only had to provide one stamp)

Post # 4
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155 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe you could include an email address that the international guests can RSVP to?  I’m going to a wedding in Europe this summer with guests from around Europe, North America and the Middle East and the invite asked for RSVP’s via email.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not sure if the US has it, but there is an international postage that I’ve seen for europe use.  

I bought some of the postage needed online and had it shipped to me.   You could also maybe included an email address for them to e-reply? 

 

Post # 6
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had the same problem.  I mailed unsealed invitations to a trusted family member who put the appropriated stamps on the RSVP envelopes and mailed the invitations afterwards.  

Post # 7
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I sent the international cards without stamps, and got them all back in the mail. I also think the email RSVP option mentioned above is good, although honestly everyone I invited from overseas knows my email anyway so in our case I don’t think it would have been necessary to have a separate email for it.

I think that “three stamps” thing mentioned above is because they are military and can mail from the base, I wouldn’t assume it applies to everyone.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Perhaps you could opt to go the formal, traditional route with your guests who reside out of the country? You would send just your invitation, without a response card or envelope. Guests ideally would then write you a note, politely accepting or declining your invitation, and the paper, envelope, and postage would be the responsibility of each couple or individual guest.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Yes, I am facing this question too, and I think you just have to trust that your international guests will understand that they will need to either supply their own postage (which, as Brielle points out, is how traditional R.s.v.p.s worked) or they should contact you via email.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I made the trip over to the US (from Canada) specfically for US postage to solve this problem. Do you know someone who could purchase the postage and send it to you to affix to the envelope?

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Just for clarification there is actually no such thing as a universal international postage. The logistics of that would be a nightmare and every country has a different postal system and rates! the only way around would be through a courier site such as DHL/TNT etc which would be expensive.

You maybe able to purchase stamps from the countries that you are sending the invites to on the internet but you would need to make sure you purchased the right amount. but I would think that overseas guests would be aware of th difficulty and would excuse there not being any return postage on the RSVP.

I agree with other bees that an email/phone call RSVP would probably be the way.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is such a thing as an International Reply Coupon that your guests can take to the post office of member countries of the Universal Postal Union. There they exchange it for the appropriate postage to mail the card back to the USA.

<http://pe.usps.com/imm_archive/html/imm_archive_2008/imm/immc3_025.htm&gt;

I don’t think it is necessary to do this. I think most people would be understanding of the associated difficulties with international invitations.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t put any postage the international invites.  I did offer online RSVP’s though.  🙂

Post # 14
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

About half of our invites went to other countries because the majority of DH family lives elsewhere. We didn’t put postage on the RSVP envelopes for those out of the country. No one was upset. Most of them didn’t mail us the RSVP back. We either got an email from them or they told DH parents that they were coming & what their food choice was.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If these invites are going to multiple countries, I think it’s fine to not include postage, and to allow these guests to RSVP online or via e-mail.

If every guest is from one specific country, send them to a trusted person there who could take care of getting the appropriate postage.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We have lots of European guests and we just put a note in the invitation and asked them to email us their response. I don’t think anyone minded and so far it’s worked out fine. I think they’ll understand. It’s not worth the stress of trying to get foreign postage. 

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