- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So I’m going to ask about a topic that I’m sure many of you have come across before. What do you do when a girl brazenly flirts with yours husband in front of you? FOR FIVE HOURS?
Story: So let’s say that DH happens to be very attractive. Six feet tall with these dimensional blue and gold eyes and wavy brown hair with blond and red that always looks perfectly styled. His personality is very conducive to attracting women. Not only is he absolutely hilarious, but he’s very well spoken and a real go getter.The issue is not with him, because this man loves me with a loyalty that I didn’t know was possible. He has zero interest in other women at all, not even celebrities. So I’m not worried about THAT, but these girls piss me off! Of course he doesn’t even notice because he tends to tune that stuff out.
He goes to school with this girl who has had a crush on him for a long time. She used to take photos of him and post them on Facebook, touch his arm and say things like “you know I love you”, and tell him she’d go out with him. Some of this was before we were dating, some of it was while.
So I told him this stuff was.making me uncomfortable, and he agreed so he asked her to stop and she did. That or he stopped noticing.
One day, this is after we’re married: I have the day, so I go with him into Boston where he commutes, and since he only had one class (the one with her in it), we have plans for after. We meet up because he needs to borrow her book to study for a test, and she. Was. Obnoxious.
She would sit across from him, pull down his laptop screen and peek over the top while he was studying, asking how it was going. She was putting her phone in his face to take pictures of him. She made endless chatter at him, not with him, for five hours nonstop. “is that tree fake? Has that always been there? Go touch it!”. She and her friend were giggling and pretending to be offended because “he’s not paying attention to us!” and they asked if he did that to me, and I said no. He is very attentive to me, I can literally whisper his name when he’s sound asleep and he will snap awake instantly. Then the girl whined to him “well what’s the DIFFERENNCCEEE???”. Geez!!
Later we’re in the cafeteria and she tells me that she thinks I should.get more croutons because she feels like he might want some. She also tells me “this was his life before you” talking about studying. Hello! I have known him since he was a little kid!
Then there’s this other girl who’s my sister in laws friend, who hugs him every ttime we arrive or leave. I mentioned that to my SIL who said “yeah, she just does that to everyone”, but she doesn’t do it to me. Just him. And when we were at the mall, I said I couldn’t wait to get home to see him, and when my SIL said he was stopping by their house to see me/pick me up, the girl took offense and was like “and ME! Yeesh!”
Am I wrong to be annoyed by this? How can I handle it gracefully? Sorry for the typos, I’m on my phone.