What do you do when family members turn into wedding-jerks/family-zilla?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@secretbee33:  Yes, it seems like weddings bring out either the best or worst in people. People make some really dumb comments/make some really dumb moves during these affairs.

There are a few things I didn’t like about the behavior of my family for my wedding as well, but I also had a very small affair that limited the potential on the drama scale.

Ultimately I just accepted that I can’t change other people and just went on with getting married. I was so happy to be finally getting my husband that I put the rest in the back of my mind.

If you can, still find it in your heart to forgive these people because they will still be family. That is all I can say.

Post # 5
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@secretbee33:  I actually had similar issues to yours with my wedding, so I totally get where you’re coming from. I think a little different of the people today too.

People come up with a lot of excuses for not coming to weddings, but I am wondering if it boils down to them not being in control of the event or something.

Post # 6
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@secretbee33:  Invite the jerk cousin and anyone else who is hemming and hawing. It’ll just give them ammunition for the future and future resentment if you don’t.

Post # 7
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@secretbee33:  I actually wrote a similar post about weddings bringing out the worst in people sometimes. It’s really sad.

Post # 8
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Brides are constantly under a microscope.  People are just waiting for you to get annoyed (like every human being on earth does every so often) but when a BRIDE does it she’s being a bridezilla.

It’s really unfair and annoying.

Post # 9
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@FleeSircus:  Agreed!

It seems like everyone assumes the bride has the worst intentions about every decision. Like we had beer & wine, people complained that they couldn’t believe we didn’t have a full bar. Umm sorry? Or, we didn’t automatically give everyone a plus one (because of our budget… If you didn’t have a SO, you didn’t get to bring a guest, unless you were in the BP). While we were thinking “we can invite more of our friends” they took it as “the bride is so mean for not letting me bring someone!”.

Post # 10
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@secretbee33:  my sister is a selfish beotch!!! Seriously, I get married once! She needs to stfu and fall in line. She has one job as a sister to be there for me and EVERYTHING is about her! At this point, fiancé and I will not be surprised if “she doesn’t have money, sitter etc..” Last minute when she has had 15 months notice. It hurt in the beginning but honestly, I have accepted that you can’t make anyone care about you or guilt them in to being there for you. If she misses out, then it says more about the type of person she is than anything else. It makes me appreciate the support and people I do have more.

Post # 11
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526 posts
Busy bee

@secretbee33:  I had similar issues, and got pretty stressed about it, until one day I hit the F$%# it stage apparently and thought as long as I get married to this amazing man, screw the rest.  Things did go horribly wrong, people acted ugly and it was still the best day of my life. I know its hard to think about it while its happening, but you can only change your point of view.  Congratulations on finding your “one”!

Post # 14
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@secretbee33:  Yes – invite the people that still told you no.  Then it’s on THEM and it takes away any ammo they might have when they feel like bitching

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