What do you do when he has friends over?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What do you do if your DH/Fi/SO has friends over?
    I do what you do--hang out for a while, but ultimately do what I want. : (83 votes)
    64 %
    Hang out with everyone the whole time. : (30 votes)
    23 %
    Ignore everyone and do whatever I want. : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Leave so they can have the whole house. : (0 votes)
    Other : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    depends. if its just the guys i leave them to it. if a wife/gf comes over i normally hang out too and we all hang together. but i dont feel guilty about going to bed earlyish if they have a late one (esp now as im pregnant and cant drink or smoke)

    i have actively discouraged DH from invited friends as couples if i wanted alone time and didnt feel sociable – and asked him just to invite his  friend for guy time

    Post # 5
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Same thing! I hang out for a while, but then I leave them to their guy time. 

    Post # 6
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    2535 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    all of the above.

    depending on the friend.

    depending on what they are doing

    how long they are staying

    what i have planned to do etc.

    Post # 7
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    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I can’t say I have this problem. FIs friends are all friends with me and I don’t think they have any interests that I’m meh about partaking in. The only exception being PC gaming because I suck at it, in which case I can always get their girlfriends (also friends with) to join me for some Friday Bride day or Netflix.

    Post # 8
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    8419 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I like video games, UFC, football, etc, so I usually hang out with the guys the whole time.

    Post # 9
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    958 posts
    Busy bee

    I cheer, dance, and have a party.

    Joking.  I would be thrilled if my partner had friends over.  Sadly, my partner is a complete misanthrope and has no friends.  He says I “don’t count as a separate person, so I’m okay,” but he hates spending more time with other people than he has to.  I’m basically the only person he enjoys spending time with.  He can tolerate other people in small doses, but that’s it.

    Post # 10
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    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1994

    I might talk to him about having people over less. I tend to try and be a good host and hang around for the wife/gf. If it happens all the time, it does put you in a difficult position. If the wife/gf is okay with watching what the guys are watching, I think you’re safe to do your own thing for the most part. Maybe just ask if they need anything, and then go have some me-time.

    Post # 11
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    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    Depends on the friends, but when he has his nerd weekends when his friends come over to play D&D and Magic, they sit in the front room at the table and I sit on the couch in the den dicking around on the Internet.

    Post # 12
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    2311 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have no choice but to hang out with them. DH’s friends always bring their SO’s. So I am busy entertaining the SO or we are all entertaining each other.

    Post # 13
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    7279 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Depends on who it is and my mood. If Im not up for company he is free to host himself. I have no issues staying in my bed and having me time.

    Post # 14
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    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Majority of my husband’s friends are still single. He has one friend that is coming for the weekend and I plan on hanging out with them or chilling on my own when I want to. I guess if he had a girlfriend we’d all hang out together, maybe I’d spend a small amount of time with her on the side. When we have couples over (we had two over this past Friday night), we all hang out together but we do spend some time chatting just the girls and just the guys. 

    Post # 15
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Generally, I crash their brofest and hang with them. 

    We live in a one-bedroom with an open concept living area. We don’t invite friends over unless we’re both in the mood for company, but when girlfriends do come over, then I peel myself away from what the dudes are doing to chat with her. 

    I’ve learned to not get attached to FI’s friends’ girlfriends. I feel traumatized by the number girls they go through after making me to entertain and become friends with them! 

    Post # 16
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    1969 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    It depends.  If its just the guys, then I make an appearance, and leave.  If there are other ladies over, then I feel obligated to entertain Undecided

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